Get­ting away from him was the right de­ci­sion

Winnipeg Free Press - Section G - - ENTERTAINMENT - MAUREEN SCURFIELD

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I know size shouldn’t mat­ter but, un­be­knownst to me, I met a “diminu­tive” man. Af­ter three months of pre­lim­i­nary ro­mance and a lit­tle fool­ing around, we got into love­mak­ing. It was such a dis­ap­point­ment for me, I am ashamed to say. I hung in for an­other two weeks, but it just wasn’t hap­pen­ing for me, al­though he was happy enough. Fi­nally I said I was no longer in­ter­ested and he got ugly. He DE­MANDED to know if it was be­cause of his small you-knowwhat. He said he’s had that com­plaint be­fore, but he yelled that he thought I was “more of a lady” than other women and called me some names and told me to get out. — Shal­low, Portage la Prairie

Dear Shal­low: You can’t fake be­ing turned on for­ever, al­though ad­mit­tedly it’s eas­ier when you’re a woman. This size sit­u­a­tion didn’t work for you. What could change that? Ac­tu­ally, you’re lucky to get away from this fel­low for other rea­sons. The yelling, curs­ing and moral judg­ment would have turned up in time, even if you had hung in there. That’s part of a nasty set of be­liefs he has about women.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: I’m a guy who just got a bad rep­u­ta­tion in Win­nipeg and am se­ri­ously con­sid­er­ing leav­ing town. I’m in the mu­sic in­dus­try where it is very easy to fool around with women and I was very im­ma­ture when I started at 17. I caught her­pes years ago. Though I don’t get many out­breaks and I usu­ally know when they’re com­ing, I have passed it on re­cently to a one-night stand, and she blabbed it all over. I was think­ing of mov­ing to Toronto where I have fam­ily and friends, to start over. Is it pos­si­ble to get rid of a bad rep­u­ta­tion in this town or do I need to get out? — Mu­si­cian With Her­pes, Win­nipeg

Dear Mu­si­cian: Don’t let gos­sip chase you out. Only go to Toronto if that’s what you want to do mu­si­cally, and this is re­ally an ex­cuse to make that move. Mean­while, change your be­hav­iour from fool­ing around to look­ing for love and be hon­est with any woman you meet be­fore you have sex, so she has a choice. One-night stands are out, as peo­ple with no emo­tional at­tach­ment have a ten­dency to blab, and you don’t need more bad pub­lic­ity. You should know peo­ple with her­pes don’t al­ways know when they are de­vel­op­ing an out­break. But, you can take med­i­ca­tion to keep the out­breaks pretty much at bay. That, plus con­doms would help make you a safer part­ner, al­though even that is not 100 per cent.

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