Boyfriend’s at­tempted rape was no birth­day present

Winnipeg Free Press - Section G - - ARTS & LIFE - MAU­REEN SCURFIELD

DEAR MISS LONE­LY­HEARTS: My boyfriend and I went to a mall on my birth­day so he could watch me try on some clothes. His big idea was to treat me to an out­fit when we found some­thing great. We did find some very cool stuff at one store. But, when I turned my back to go into the chang­e­room, and come out to do a fash­ion show for him, he slipped in be­hind me and locked the door. Then he said the “lit­tle con­di­tion” for his buy­ing the cloth­ing was that I have sex with him there in the change cu­bi­cle. I told him to get lost and he pinned me against the door and tried to force me to do it. I fi­nally man­aged to knee him, and ran out of the store, but­ton­ing up my clothes up, and called my room­mate to come and pick me up. My birth­day was spoiled; I just stayed home cry­ing and have been cry­ing ever since. He’s been try­ing to call me to apol­o­gize. My best friend says I should take his call and apol­o­gize be­cause “noth­ing hap­pened any­way” and I over­re­acted. Did I? — Start­ing To Won­der, Wpg.

Dear Not Sure: Don’t call this guy! If any­body tries to force a girl/ woman to have sex (at­tempted rape), she’s en­ti­tled to fight back and go to po­lice and charge the per­son. No doubt your ex thought you’d be too em­bar­rassed to make a fuss. Date rape is rape. And yes, some women would have given in, so as not to cause a scene. But, oth­ers would have screamed for help and made a big scene and called po­lice. It’s for­tu­nate he didn’t over­power you. Think he wouldn’t try it again with some­one else? It’s less likely if he doesn’t get away with it. You may want to call po­lice and/or talk to Klinic’s Sex­ual As­sault team’s 24hour line (786-8631). Web­site is www.klinic.mb.ca/coun­sel-sex­ual. htm.

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