Se­nior en­gaged, has right to be en­raged

Winnipeg Free Press - Section G - - ARTS & LIFE - MAU­REEN SCURFIELD

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: My boyfriend and I have been en­gaged for the past seven months. We are both se­niors in our late 60s and he tells me he loves me ev­ery day. The other day I went on his com­puter and found out he’s writ­ing let­ters to sin­gle women on an online dat­ing site. He’s on the side where women send flirts and mes­sages. I might add th­ese are not love let­ters. He gives his phone num­ber or he asks them to call him. Th­ese women would like to meet him and go for cof­fee or lunch. I’m not sure if has ever done it. Now I’m los­ing trust and feel kind of be­trayed. I al­most let it out the other day. He said If I would go on his com­puter it would be a crim­i­nal of­fence. Should I tell him I know about th­ese let­ters, or keep quiet? — Sus­pi­cious Se­nior, Winnipeg Dear Sus­pi­cious: Why would you keep quiet? This is not the kind of guy you marry. He’s not de­voted to you ex­clu­sively and he’s still fool­ing around — prob­a­bly never stopped. That’s all you should need to know un­less you want an open mar­riage where you can both fool around online and off. Are you low­er­ing your stan­dards be­cause of your age? You want to give him more rope — give him lots. You know where he’s been play­ing around, so you could write him us­ing an online alias and see how far he’s will­ing to go. Ask him if he is see­ing any­one and hear his phoney an­swers. That should turn you off him. Or just tell him you’ve seen his online pro­file, and throw him the ring. Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: May I sug­gest an ad­di­tional op­tion for the writer who states he can’t quit drink­ing be­cause he’ll get the DTs? He is right to be con­cerned, as the delir­ium tre­mens can be fatal. He can safely with­draw at the chem­i­cal with­drawal unit at Health Sciences Cen­tre. There is a chem­i­cal with­drawal triage nurse in the HSC emer­gency depart­ment, or his doc­tor can ar­range for ad­mis­sion. It’s only a few days, and they’ll con­nect him with com­mu­nity fol­lowup. — For­mer Psy­chi­atric Nurse Dear For­mer Nurse: Thank you. That is ex­cel­lent in­for­ma­tion. Con­sider it passed on. I will email the writer, as well, to make sure he gets the in­for­ma­tion. Please send your ques­tions or com­ments c/o love­coach@hot­ or mail let­ters to Miss Lonelyhearts c/o Winnipeg Free Press, 1355 Moun­tain

Ave., Winnipeg, MB, R2X 3B6

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