Just en­joy the mem­ory; he’s on an­other con­ti­nent!

Winnipeg Free Press - Section G - - ARTS & LIFE - MAU­REEN SCURFIELD

DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: I just met a sweet guy on an air­plane and we had so much fun to­gether, we ac­tu­ally kissed each other good­bye. What a kiss! It went on and on. Nei­ther of us are mar­ried, but he lives in South Amer­ica and I live here in Man­i­toba. What, if any­thing, can we do now? — Miss­ing Him, East Kil­do­nan Dear Miss­ing Him: En­joy the mem­ory of that kiss and the things you chat­ted about on the plane — where people seem to ex­press them­selves more freely. That’d be the best end re­sult. Doesn’t seem like much, does it? But,try­ing to make some­thing out of a few hours of flight ex­pe­ri­ence when this guy lives on an­other con­ti­nent is too much work for too lit­tle re­ward. If you like to be held and kissed and hugged and made love to, this man doesn’t have long enough arms or legs to stretch across the miles. But, if you both want each other, there’s al­ways the In­ter­net, and trips — and some people have got­ten to­gether and made it work. Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: My boyfriend went cold as ice when I got sick. I had the flu a cou­ple of weeks ago and he ig­nored me, ex­cept to throw me clean bed­ding and mag­a­zines and to run out of the kitchen if I went in there to make my­self food and drinks. He brought me noth­ing, not one Kleenex! He said noth­ing com­fort­ing, ab­so­lutely no sym­pa­thy. He just stayed out of my way. And how did he jus­tify sleep­ing on the couch and not talk­ing to me at all? “I know you wouldn’t want to make me sick, too,” he said. “That would be self­ish of you.” Well, an­tibi­otics may have killed the bug in me, but they can’t kill the ter­ri­ble way I feel about him now. This morn­ing I found my­self think­ing about him and then I got out a big suit­case and started throw­ing things into it. He said, “What the heck do you think you’re do­ing? We have a lease to­gether!” He didn’t say, “I love you, I’m sorry. I’ve been such a mean jerk.” He just men­tioned the lease. What should I do? I’m young. I want to go home to my par­ents. — Stunned By the Deep Freeze, West­wood Dear Stunned: You are with a young man who treats you like you’re a germ and doesn’t help you when you’re sick and need his love, at­ten­tion and help. Fair-weather friends do not make good mates. If he was so afraid of catch­ing what you had — but still wanted to look af­ter you — he could have worn a mask but still brought you food, love, con­ver­sa­tion and com­fort. Tell him you were stunned and deeply hurt by his cold­ness when you were ill. Say this: “We have to talk to the land­lord and get a sub­let.” They may al­ready have a lineup for suites and let you out of the lease. Tell your boyfriend he can sign on to take over your half of the lease as well, if he wants to stay. He may want to bring in one of his friends. There are many ways to do this but DO NOT go for a ver­bal agree­ment only. See your land­lord and ev­ery­body in­volved signs. Please send your ques­tions or com­ments c/o love­coach@hot­mail.com or mail letters to Miss Lonelyhearts c/o Win­nipeg Free Press, 1355 Moun­tain Ave., Win­nipeg R2X 3B6

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