’Tis the season...
...to be angry and sad?
CRecognize early stages of emotion – Emotions typically start with a response to a small trigger and then become overwhelming. Immediately following a negative feeling, think through and/or write down all the activities during your day. Look for the triggers that set off your negative emotions. Typically, your emotional triggers are common and consistent. Identify them and evaluate why a situation is difficult for you. Ask yourself if there is another way to think about your situation. Talk to someone about this.
Remove yourself – If you find yourself in an emotionally challenging situation and you don’t need to be there, then leave. You don’t need to listen to a conversation that sends you to the doldrums. You don’t need to listen to someone complain to such an extent that you become angry and frustrated. Simply remove yourself and seek out other people and environments that are positive.
Learn to express yourself – When you are emotional, you are typically not in a good space to express yourself. Instead, you might blow up in anger, yell and/or engage in other inappropriate behaviour. This can cause more problems with your colleagues and/or your manager. Stop and take a breath. Identify why you are emotional. Focus on a word or phrase you can use to slowly calm yourself down and relax. Next, look at the situation, step by step in a rational manner. Do not respond until you have calmed down and reviewed your situation.
Test yourself – Many if not most people inadvertently engage in what HRISTMAS and Hanukkah are upon us, so organizational leaders, team members, family members and individuals all need to be more aware of the multitude of emotions of the holiday season.
For employees’ families, stress can arise from complicated schedules. Blended families often double the number of visits and dinners to prepare or attend. Gift buying is complicated, is called twisted thinking. In other words, when they make one mistake, they think their world is falling apart. The person is engaging in all-ornothing thinking. Research the list of twisting thinking and test yourself. You’ll be able to recognize the many elements of twisted thinking and catch yourself when you say foolish things to yourself in the future.
Talk it out – Sometimes when you rehash your own thoughts, you make it worse. Find a neutral party and share your dilemma with them. Ask for feedback and comment on how you feel and are behaving. Ask for suggestions on how to overcome your negative emotion. Seek your organization’s employee assistance program, if need be.
Find a friend – Perhaps this festive season is the first time you’ve been without your family and/or you have experienced the loss of a family member. It is natural to be sad, but you have a network of friends who would gladly extend a helping hand. Invite them to join you for dinner, accompany you to a movie, a musical performance and/or a sporting event. Any of these activities will improve your spirit and you’ll be surprised at how many people are experiencing the same situation and are glad for the company.
Engage in positive self-talk – Negative thinking can be like a spiral staircase that goes down into deep dark places. Take steps to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Create an uplifting phrase and/or mantra for yourself. Then, whenever you feel a negative emotion overcoming you, focus on this positive mantra. Repeat your phrase until you have calmed especially for children who have great wants but whose parents have a low budget.
There are also many employees whose families live elsewhere and there isn’t an opportunity to visit them at this time of year. This scenario can create a sense of emotional loss, which can lead to depression.
There is also huge stress at work as employers struggle to get all the work done prior to the holiday. Usually, there are one or two employees off work with illness, which puts more pressure on the remaining workers. In down, are thinking clearly and are feeling more positive. Sometimes focusing on a favourite place where you have experienced happy times can work just as well. Self-talk strategies have become more popular and are known to work well. Take time to read more about them.
Make yourself happy – Many people don’t realize they have the power to turn their emotional situation around instead of wallowing in despair. Ask yourself, “What can I do right now to make myself happy?” Then do it! This could be as simple as going for a walk, watching a movie, starting a new book or calling a good friend. You and only you can make yourself happy.
Forgive yourself – Many times when we recognize we are engaging in negative thinking, we then get angry with ourselves. If you stop and forgive yourself, you might even find yourself laughing at your own behavior. At the very least, it helps you to detach from negative feelings.
Hopefully, this season will bring happiness and joy, but when work or family stresses allow negativity to creep into your life, stop and pay attention.
Examine your own emotions and develop strategies to bring happiness back into your life. At the same time, be sensitive to the issues your colleagues and friends might be experiencing and reach out to help them enjoy this holiday season. spite of the fact the holiday season is festive and we are supposed to be happy, not everyone feels that way. Instead, people will often feel overwhelmed by their stress, and in spite of the drive to leave their emotions at the door, tempers will flair, tear ducts will swell and emotions will spill over into the workplace.
So, knowing this season can be very emotional, every individual needs to pay attention, recognize their emotions and find ways to manage them effectively. Strategies to help include the following: