New ways to re­new you in 2017


So 2016 was a dud — and you’re heav­ier, haugh­tier and un­hap­pier too.

Get a life — a new one of sorts. Re­launch and re­new your­self. Atone for your un­healthy habits, neg­a­tive mind­set and drag­ging oth­ers down — this is the time to get your­self a new at­ti­tude and a new di­rec­tion.

Here are 17 tips to make 2017 your best year ever. Your life will thank you for it!

Do some­thing dar­ing!

Loosen your grip on the handrails of life — many of us hold on tight to those handrails, for se­cu­rity, safety and pre­dictabil­ity. “Put your life in your hands and start liv­ing it to the fullest, on your terms,” says Frank Far­ley, a psy­chol­o­gist at Tem­ple Univer­sity, Philadel­phia.

Body shamers, take a hike

Start your day with one thing you love about your­self, says plus-size model Elly May­day. Through­out the day, look to oth­ers and see what is beau­ti­ful in them. “I love com­pli­ment­ing peo­ple, it’s my way of en­cour­ag­ing an­other per­son to see some­thing pos­i­tive about them­selves,” says May­day, who’s ap­pear­ing Jan. 17 at Spoke­haus in Toronto for a spin class.

Ditch the detox!

This trend just won’t die but it can ac­tu­ally be a risk to your health, says mi­cro­bi­ol­o­gist Ja­son Tetro, aka The Germ Guy. If it’s re­ally the detox di­ar­rhea you’re af­ter, eat a few ta­ble­spoons of hemp seeds. There will be more than enough mag­ne­sium to make you run due to the runs. Oth­er­wise, fol­low a fi­bre­filled diet, lots of veg­eta­bles and fruit so you also get phy­to­chem­i­cals.

Re­new you by shed­ding the sib­ling shame

Adults feel more shame, guilt and re­gret over es­trange­ment from their dif­fi­cult sib­lings than over al­most any other re­la­tion­ship, says Dr. Jeanne Safer. “Keep an open heart and mind — and ac­cept that not ev­ery sib­ling con­flict can be fixed, even if you try; it takes two. But you can al­ways come to terms within your­self, which only takes you,” says Safer, of jean­nesafer­ and au­thor of Cain’s Ri­valry.

Turn a deaf ear

Hey, mom, turn a deaf ear to the noise of the other moth­ers, says Brett Graff, of the­home­economist. com. “They’ll tell you about the lat­est educational toy your child must own, the class she must take, the school she must at­tend. Th­ese pur­chases are ex­pen­sive — and don’t make for happy kids, or happy fam­i­lies!” adds Graff, au­thor of Not Buy­ing It.

Un­re­ward­ing friend­ships

Hang­ing on to un­re­ward­ing friend­ships saps time away from cul­ti­vat­ing new friend­ships, and from nur­tur­ing ones that might be more sat­is­fy­ing, says Irene S. Levine, PhD, psy­chol­o­gist and friend­ship ex­pert. Grad­u­ally wean your­self away from toxic friends by spend­ing less time with them. Bet­ter to morph them into ac­quain­tances than turn them into en­e­mies.

Ditch the neg­a­tiv­ity

Shake off Neg­a­tive Nancy, Pity Polly and Dis­ap­pointed Deb­bie, says Trey An­thony, di­rec­tor of How Black Moth­ers Say I Love You. “Stop invit­ing neg­a­tiv­ity into your life, it will drain you. Avoid a de­pres­sive slump — by lim­it­ing neg­a­tiv­ity in my life it helped mo­ti­vate me to be a bet­ter and more pos­i­tive per­son.”

Throw out the rules

Throw out the rules, says writer and per­former San­dra Shamas, ap­pear­ing in The Big ‘What Now?’ “Lately, while se­ri­ously con­sid­er­ing the idea of rein­ven­tion, I heard He­len Mir­ren be­ing in­ter­viewed about her life choices. She made a point to say, ‘There are no rules.’ Wow! So, throw out the rules and plan to get off your own beaten path.” 2 lbs. kosher salt 2 dozen fresh lit­tle neck clams ½ cup dry bread crumbs ¼ cup chicken broth 1 Tbsp. minced fresh pars­ley 2 Tbsp. olive oil 2 gar­lic cloves, minced ¼ Tbsp. dried oregano Dash pep­per panko (Ja­panese) bread crumbs Lemon wedges 1 Tbsp.

New style for a new you

“Play­ing with pro­por­tions can help you feel re­freshed, like pair­ing a longer-length femmy skirt or dress with an up­dated shoe — either a plat­form or fun printed slip­per slide,” ad­vises Caro­line Bel­humeur, Club Monaco women’s wear de­signer. An over-the-top sculp­tural top is the per­fect up­date for a pair of pants or jeans from your ex­ist­ing wardrobe.

Laugh it up

Laugh more — at least twice as of­ten as you did last year, says per­for­mance coach Steve Siebold. Laugh­ing has many pos­i­tive ef­fects on the body and brain, and it shows oth­ers that you don’t take your­self too se­ri­ously.

Set #Re­la­tion­shipGoals!

In­stead of oohing and ah­hing over images of the per­fect cou­ples on so­cial me­dia, take the ini­tia­tive, say re­la­tion­ship ex­pert Kim­berly Mof­fit. Do you want to get in shape to­gether? Travel to an ex­otic lo­ca­tion? Write a list of five #Re­la­tion­shipGoals and how you’ll ac­com­plish th­ese to­gether this year. Reach­ing goals to­gether builds stronger bonds.

Rest to be your best

Nap­ping keeps well­ness ex­pert Bev­er­ley Beuer­mann-King well. “My num­ber one go-to when I am feel­ing stressed is a nap. A nap for me is not a lux­ury, it is a ne­ces­sity. It helps to re­new my en­ergy and clear my mind so that I can at­tack what­ever is­sue I am fac­ing.”

Quit while you’re ahead

Un­less dead­lines loom, stop your day’s work when you still have some ideas left, ad­vises Alex Soo­jungKim Pang, au­thor of Rest. “Sci­en­tists have dis­cov­ered that your sub­con­scious con­tin­ues ex­plor­ing prob­lems and test­ing so­lu­tions even when you’ve moved on to some­thing else.”

From hurts to hap­pi­ness

Take a hurt­ful per­son to lunch, says psy­chol­o­gist Far­ley. Some­one who hurt you emo­tion­ally/psy­cho­log­i­cally but who you had liked or was a rel­a­tive. Call them, sug­gest you go to lunch. Re-set the re­la­tion­ship. You’ll prob­a­bly find they want to put the past away also and start anew.

Boost your health

Boost your health with Omega-3 fatty acids, says Tetro. They have the abil­ity to keep bad bac­te­ria at bay. They are good for the mouth and also the gut — be sure to give that oil a swish be­fore swal­low­ing!

JA­SON TETRO Stop detox­ing


TREY AN­THONY Avoid neg­a­tiv­ity

BRETT GRAFF Pricey ad­vice

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