New ways to renew you in 2017
So 2016 was a dud — and you’re heavier, haughtier and unhappier too.
Get a life — a new one of sorts. Relaunch and renew yourself. Atone for your unhealthy habits, negative mindset and dragging others down — this is the time to get yourself a new attitude and a new direction.
Here are 17 tips to make 2017 your best year ever. Your life will thank you for it!
Do something daring!
Loosen your grip on the handrails of life — many of us hold on tight to those handrails, for security, safety and predictability. “Put your life in your hands and start living it to the fullest, on your terms,” says Frank Farley, a psychologist at Temple University, Philadelphia.
Body shamers, take a hike
Start your day with one thing you love about yourself, says plus-size model Elly Mayday. Throughout the day, look to others and see what is beautiful in them. “I love complimenting people, it’s my way of encouraging another person to see something positive about themselves,” says Mayday, who’s appearing Jan. 17 at Spokehaus in Toronto for a spin class.
Ditch the detox!
This trend just won’t die but it can actually be a risk to your health, says microbiologist Jason Tetro, aka The Germ Guy. If it’s really the detox diarrhea you’re after, eat a few tablespoons of hemp seeds. There will be more than enough magnesium to make you run due to the runs. Otherwise, follow a fibrefilled diet, lots of vegetables and fruit so you also get phytochemicals.
Renew you by shedding the sibling shame
Adults feel more shame, guilt and regret over estrangement from their difficult siblings than over almost any other relationship, says Dr. Jeanne Safer. “Keep an open heart and mind — and accept that not every sibling conflict can be fixed, even if you try; it takes two. But you can always come to terms within yourself, which only takes you,” says Safer, of jeannesaferphd.com and author of Cain’s Rivalry.
Turn a deaf ear
Hey, mom, turn a deaf ear to the noise of the other mothers, says Brett Graff, of thehomeeconomist. com. “They’ll tell you about the latest educational toy your child must own, the class she must take, the school she must attend. These purchases are expensive — and don’t make for happy kids, or happy families!” adds Graff, author of Not Buying It.
Hanging on to unrewarding friendships saps time away from cultivating new friendships, and from nurturing ones that might be more satisfying, says Irene S. Levine, PhD, psychologist and friendship expert. Gradually wean yourself away from toxic friends by spending less time with them. Better to morph them into acquaintances than turn them into enemies.
Ditch the negativity
Shake off Negative Nancy, Pity Polly and Disappointed Debbie, says Trey Anthony, director of How Black Mothers Say I Love You. “Stop inviting negativity into your life, it will drain you. Avoid a depressive slump — by limiting negativity in my life it helped motivate me to be a better and more positive person.”
Throw out the rules
Throw out the rules, says writer and performer Sandra Shamas, appearing in The Big ‘What Now?’ “Lately, while seriously considering the idea of reinvention, I heard Helen Mirren being interviewed about her life choices. She made a point to say, ‘There are no rules.’ Wow! So, throw out the rules and plan to get off your own beaten path.” 2 lbs. kosher salt 2 dozen fresh little neck clams ½ cup dry bread crumbs ¼ cup chicken broth 1 Tbsp. minced fresh parsley 2 Tbsp. olive oil 2 garlic cloves, minced ¼ Tbsp. dried oregano Dash pepper panko (Japanese) bread crumbs Lemon wedges 1 Tbsp.
New style for a new you
“Playing with proportions can help you feel refreshed, like pairing a longer-length femmy skirt or dress with an updated shoe — either a platform or fun printed slipper slide,” advises Caroline Belhumeur, Club Monaco women’s wear designer. An over-the-top sculptural top is the perfect update for a pair of pants or jeans from your existing wardrobe.
Laugh it up
Laugh more — at least twice as often as you did last year, says performance coach Steve Siebold. Laughing has many positive effects on the body and brain, and it shows others that you don’t take yourself too seriously.
Instead of oohing and ahhing over images of the perfect couples on social media, take the initiative, say relationship expert Kimberly Moffit. Do you want to get in shape together? Travel to an exotic location? Write a list of five #RelationshipGoals and how you’ll accomplish these together this year. Reaching goals together builds stronger bonds.
Rest to be your best
Napping keeps wellness expert Beverley Beuermann-King well. “My number one go-to when I am feeling stressed is a nap. A nap for me is not a luxury, it is a necessity. It helps to renew my energy and clear my mind so that I can attack whatever issue I am facing.”
Quit while you’re ahead
Unless deadlines loom, stop your day’s work when you still have some ideas left, advises Alex SoojungKim Pang, author of Rest. “Scientists have discovered that your subconscious continues exploring problems and testing solutions even when you’ve moved on to something else.”
From hurts to happiness
Take a hurtful person to lunch, says psychologist Farley. Someone who hurt you emotionally/psychologically but who you had liked or was a relative. Call them, suggest you go to lunch. Re-set the relationship. You’ll probably find they want to put the past away also and start anew.
Boost your health
Boost your health with Omega-3 fatty acids, says Tetro. They have the ability to keep bad bacteria at bay. They are good for the mouth and also the gut — be sure to give that oil a swish before swallowing!
JASON TETRO Stop detoxing
TREY ANTHONY Avoid negativity
BRETT GRAFF Pricey advice