Chi­nese-style overindul­gence

China Daily (Canada) - - COMMENT -

( zhong guo shi ni ai)

A re­cent re­port says the mother of a 26-year-old mar­ried woman not only helps put on her socks, but also walks her to the bus stop ev­ery morn­ing. This is a typ­i­cal ex­am­ple of Chi­nese-style overindul­gence.

Apart from teach­ing their chil­dren the ba­sic lessons of life, par­ents should also teach them the nec­es­sary skills to sur­vive. Par­ents can make their chil­dren over-de­pen­dent on them if they help them with all their ev­ery­day work. By do­ing so, they can also make their chil­dren feel help­less in their fu­ture life.

Ex­ces­sive parental in­dul­gence can leave chil­dren with­out the abil­ity to sur­vive and take care of them­selves as in­de­pen­dent adults. Overindul­gence is not love but a dis­ser­vice to chil­dren, which will harm their healthy growth.

Par­ents should guide their chil­dren to be­come in­de­pen­dent. For ex­am­ple, par­ents should give their chil­dren some sort of ma­te­rial in­cen­tive to en­cour­age them to help with house­work. And school­teach­ers should co­op­er­ate with par­ents by as­sign­ing chil­dren house­work-re­lated home­work dur­ing the sum­mer and win­ter va­ca­tions to cul­ti­vate good liv­ing habits among them.

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