A bright, shin­ing bride

A recurring brain tu­mor didn’t keep Feng Ying from find­ing the love of her life, and the op­ti­mistic cou­ple is look­ing to a fu­ture with op­tions, they tell Qi Xin in Zhengzhou, He­nan.

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Feng Ying’s wed­ding day was dif­fer­ent from most. An am­bu­lance fol­lowed the wed­ding party to the event. Nurses checked her blood pres­sure three times dur­ing the day. If the bride had not felt very well, they would have stopped the wed­ding at any time. “Luck­ily, the check­ups were OK,” Feng.

Feng had dreamed many times about her wed­ding, but meet­ing her Mr Right at her “un­lucky” mo­ment and get­ting mar­ried dur­ing what were po­ten­tially her fi­nal days on Earth, was not part of the fan­tasy.

“I’m so lucky to fall in love with my hus­band, and I givemy sin­cere thanks to all the warm­hearted people for at­tend­ingmy wed­ding,” the 23-year-old bride suf­fer­ing from glioma, a type of brain tu­mor, said at the March 2 cer­e­mony in Zhong­mou county of Zhengzhou, cap­i­tal of Cen­tral China’s He­nan prov­ince.

It is a love story that has­moved­many people. Hun­dreds had gath­ered spon­ta­neously at a ho­tel, which was pro­vided to them for free, to en­cour­age this brave woman and send their best wishes to the bride and her groom, YangHaibin.

“Orig­i­nally, I thought people were wait­ing for a show or some­thing,” Feng says hap­pily.

At about 5:20 am, af­ter a trans­fu­sion ses­sion in a lo­cal hospi­tal, Feng washed her face and got ready to go home with the help of her par­ents and friends, to pre­pare her makeup and wed­ding dress for the big day.

“I was too ex­cited to sleep that night. I just slept about two hours,” Feng says.

When her hus­band, 24-year-old Yang, car­ried her on his back down­stairs, Feng says she felt like the hap­pi­est bride in the world.

Many cam­eras were wait­ing for her ar­rival. Feng smiled hap­pily.

The cou­ple ap­pre­ci­ates the many warm­hearted people who helped them by pro­vid­ing freemakeup, pho­tog­ra­phy, the ho­tel and wed­ding cer­e­mony ser­vice. One per­son even pro­vided their own Mercedes-Benz to serve the cou­ple.

An el­derly man sur­named Zhang came from a nearby county, say­ing he was moved by their love story on TV, and wanted to en­cour­age the brave girl.

“This girl is so smart. We hope she can de­feat her dis­ease and have a long, long happy life,” Zhang says.

The young cou­ple got a mar­riage reg­is­tra­tion on Sept 23, 2013, but they didn’t plan a wed­ding im­me­di­ately. They had to save money for med­i­cal bills, Yang says.

Yang works in a lo­cal post of­fice and earns only 3,000 yuan ($488) a month.

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Feng is the sec­ond of the three daugh­ters in the fam­ily and her twin sis­ter, the youngest, was born deaf. The fam­i­ly­makes a liv­ing by sell­ing bean sprouts in the mar­ket, but Feng’s treat­ment has cost some 200,000 yuan, and they have had to bor­row money from rel­a­tives and friends.

Feng was di­ag­nosed with glioma and had an oper­a­tion in 2011, but the tu­mor re­curred in 2013.

“We didn’t know what to do then, but Yingy­ing said she did not­mourn­for her life,” says her mother Cheng Li­uzhi, 57. “She even told us she wanted to do­nate her corneas and kid­ney to those in need af­ter learn­ing of her re­lapse.

“She per­suaded us to agree to her wishes at that time and said we could ‘see her again’ by see­ing the re­cip­i­ent.”

It was about this time that Yang came into Feng’s life.

The two “met” on­line via WeChat dur­ing theQixi Fes­ti­val, or Chi­nese Valen­tine’s Day, on Aug 13, when she was re­ceiv­ing treat­ment in a hospi­tal.

They met face-to-face the next day and al­ready felt like good old friends.

Whentalk­ing about their love story, Feng smiles and says God is fair, but at the mo­ment when both the brain tu­mor and love be­fell her, she felt at a loss. But now, she feels more ap­pre­ci­ated and brave enough to face fate with the sup­port of her hus­band.

Feng used to sell clothes and still has the habit of dress­ing nicely.

Feng of­ten uses the word “luck” and she has the glow of a woman in love even as her ill­ness gets worse, blur­ring her vi­sion and erod­ing her mem­ory.

But laugh­ter and hap­pi­ness are ev­i­dent in Feng’s hospi­tal ward, and she stays op­ti­mistic about de­feat­ing the brain tu­mor.

But she wasn’t al­ways sure that her love was right.

“At the be­gin­ning, I re­fused. I did not want to af­fect Yang’s life, but his per­sis­tence moved me,” Feng says while show­ing off her mar­riage cer­tifi­cate.

Yang says: “There was a lot of ob­struc­tion at that time. My par­ents did not agree, and many friends of mine also ad­vised me to break up.

“But I clearly knew her.”

Huo Yan, Feng’s doc­tor, says Feng needs much more ad­vanced treat­ment in a big city.

The People’s Lib­er­a­tion Army Navy Gen­eral Hospi­tal in Bei­jing of­fered to waive the cost of the surgery two days af­ter the cou­ple’s wed­ding was re­ported by me­dia.

Feng andYang ar­rived in Bei­jing on Satur­day for fur­ther check­ups at large hos­pi­tals, look­ing for the best op­tions and pos­si­ble treat­ment.

A Chi­nese-Amer­i­can sur­named Wang also con­tacted the lo­cal me­dia, sug­gest­ing that they ap­ply for fund­ing from the Amer­i­can Brain Tu­mor As­so­ci­a­tion in the United States. The two are in the process of fill­ing out the ap­pli­ca­tion forms and search­ing for more in­for­ma­tion on­line.

“We are so happy to have an­other pos­si­bil­ity and hope to grasp at it,” Yang says.

I wanted Con­tact the writer at qixin@chi­nadaily.com.cn.

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XIANG MINGCHAO / CHINA DAILY

A smil­ing Feng Ying rests in her Zhengzhou hospi­tal bed, with a wed­ding gift from a stranger.

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