A worthwhile trade-off for love
34, English teacher in Nanyang, Henan province
I decided to have a second child after being encouraged to do so by Zihang, my older son.
He often asked me why his classmates in kindergarten had a brother or sister but he didn’t. Bothmy husband and I are the only children in our families, so we could understand Zihang’s loneliness and need for company in childhood.
Although I know how hard it can be to raise a child during the first three years, we decided to have a second child and give Zihang new and different childhood memories.
Our second child was born in December. After that, I moved into a confinement service center, andmy older son lived with his grandparents.
During the first month there, he came to visit me several times. I could sense his excitement about having a sibling. He would keep asking where his brother was, and share his joy and pride with strangers in the hospital.
Meanwhile, I could also see him change day by day, although it is very subtle. There seems to be a growing sense of responsibility in him.
I chose to stay at the confinement service center because I needed a quiet environment to recover. There are many mothers having a second child, and the oldest is about 40.
The service costs about 20,000 yuan ($2,900), and our quality of life has also been affected because we had a second child. However, I feel fine about that, because it is a trade-off. As long as our children grow up happy and healthily, my husband and I will be happy.
Zhu Mian spoke with Qi Xin.