All the ef­fort and loss has been worth­while

China Daily (Hong Kong) - - CHINA - Wang Xiaofeng

(not his real name), 35, from Chuzhou city, An­hui prov­ince, is a gay man who mar­ried a les­bian so they could have a child.

I’m gay, and when my son was born 10 months ago, I de­cided to live in the closet for my en­tire life. He will never know that he has a gay dad and his mom is a les­bian, or that he was con­ceived via a self-in­sem­i­na­tion pro­ce­dure per­formed by his mom.

My wife and I have cho­sen to stay in the closet for­ever to pro­tect our son from po­ten­tial pres­sure and dis­crim­i­na­tion.

Life now is tir­ing, and car­ing for my son is hard work. My boyfriend of five years left me be­cause I had less time to spend with him, but all the ef­fort and loss has been worth­while.

It took me three years to find a les­bian who like me wanted a child. There are al­ways more gay men who want a child than there are les­bians.

We met in on­line chat­ting groups of hun­dreds of lo­cal gays and les­bians who need a mar­riage in name only, be­cause same-sex mar­riage is il­le­gal in this coun­try.

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