All the effort and loss has been worthwhile
(not his real name), 35, from Chuzhou city, Anhui province, is a gay man who married a lesbian so they could have a child.
I’m gay, and when my son was born 10 months ago, I decided to live in the closet for my entire life. He will never know that he has a gay dad and his mom is a lesbian, or that he was conceived via a self-insemination procedure performed by his mom.
My wife and I have chosen to stay in the closet forever to protect our son from potential pressure and discrimination.
Life now is tiring, and caring for my son is hard work. My boyfriend of five years left me because I had less time to spend with him, but all the effort and loss has been worthwhile.
It took me three years to find a lesbian who like me wanted a child. There are always more gay men who want a child than there are lesbians.
We met in online chatting groups of hundreds of local gays and lesbians who need a marriage in name only, because same-sex marriage is illegal in this country.