Support group helped me cope with loss ofmy wife
My wife died of acute leukemia in December 2012. It was a fewdays from the diagnosis to her death. Everything happened so suddenly and I was really crushed.
We were schoolmates and had been married for 50 years. Actually, her death just came a fewdays after our 50th wedding anniversary. I really wasn’t anticipating it.
I couldn’t face the reality of it all and was crying a lot. At some points, I thought it would be better to be with her rather than stay in this world alone.
Every time I sawa couple walking on the street, holding each other, I missed her so much.
The widowed elderly are always very lonely and keen to chat. But it’s not easy to find someone who wants to share. I have three daughters and a son and they don’t live with me. They can’t truly understand how I feel because they haven’t reachedmy age yet and the younger generation have their own interests.
Fortunately, after a couple of weeks, I sawan advertisement on TV for the “Love ElderlyHotline” and made a call. Through the hotline, I got to know many friends who have had similar experiences.
I live in a rural area of Fangshan district and it takesme two hours just to reach the center, but I enjoy it very much.
At first, my children were suspicious. They didn’t believe such an organization could exist, providing a service to the elderly free of charge.
I amthe only one from the countryside here. Most villagers still don’t know about the service at all and might feel ashamed to admit they have suicidal thoughts or psychological problems.
In the past, some old people took their own lives after being mistreated by their children. Nowwe can receive a 400 yuan pension ($60) per month, with which we can survive even without the support of children.
It has been almost four years sincemy wife passed away. I’ve adjusted to this new life now and I believe it would bringmy wife comfort to see me happy.