Parents must care more about enjoyment, not rewards
Chen Zhengzhi, 31, has been engaged in the development of youth sports since 2008, specializing in soccer from2013, and is also deputy secretary of the Chaoyang District Football Association in Beijing.
There is no doubt that the recently released policies have led to a rise in the number of people participating in soccer, in terms of both amateur players and related businesses. Older players in the field are also discovering newways to break through. These factors have resulted in improved development of sports generally andmay help the country’s soccer players perform better at the professional level.
However, some parents are sending their kids to soccer schools with a far too utilitarian, or result-oriented, mindset that emphasizes how well the child performs and what they can gain. Frommy perspective, this contradicts the very nature of soccer, which is teamwork. After all, it is a team sport.
If parents have an extremely selfish mindset, their children will be influenced and there will be no point in talking about “the team”. The kids would only care about their own improvement and gaining a place at a renowned school via their soccer skills.
Luckily we don’t see many selfish kids on the turf, but some parents used to yell and scold them for making moves that didn’t fit the coach’s methods, or for zoning out. We perfectly understand why kids do these things and we have measures to guide them. Sadly, some parents didn’t get it, and occasionally they even rushed onto the field to berate their kids. In the end, we had to move the parents further away from the pitch.
I have talked tomany parents, possibly asmany as 2,000. In terms of the reasons they send their children to soccer schools, there are generally three types of parents: those who simply follow the trend and fear that their kids will fall behind others or won’t blend in; those who want their kids to win certificates that may benefit them in future school entrance exams; and those who value their child’s interests.
I guess these three types are quite distinct from each other, but fortunately, many post-1980s parents are firmly in the third category.
Chen Zhengzhi spoke with China Daily.
If parents have an extremely selfish mindset, their children will be influenced ...