Dif­fi­cult road af­ter sur­prise preg­nancy

China Daily (USA) - - CHINA - LI JINHUI 42-year-old ar­chi­tect in Bei­jing

When I found I was preg­nant, I was al­ready three months in. The preg­nancy was not planned, so I didn’t no­tice at first.

It will bemy sec­ond child. I al­ready have a 12-year-old girl. But to be frank, my hus­band and I were not ex­cited about it.

Hav­ing a sec­ond child means big changes to our cur­rent life. It would cost a for­tune to raise an­other child in Bei­jing, and we will be kept busy for an­other 20 years in or­der to take good care of the child. Both of us are 42 years old, we are not young any­more. We had dis­cus­sions over and over again about whether we should keep the baby.

When we fi­nally de­cided to em­brace this new fam­ily mem­ber, I was four months preg­nant. I went to sev­eral big hos­pi­tals and tried to se­cure a bed for de­liv­ery, but they all turned me down.

The ob­ste­tri­cians I saw were all sur­prised that I came to them so late in the preg­nancy. They said that nowa­days, preg­nant women should go to hos­pi­tal as soon as they know that they are preg­nant to reg­is­ter, as early as five or six weeks along.

I was sur­prised as well, be­cause when I had my first child (in 2004), I was told not to see an ob­ste­tri­cian un­til I was at least 3 months preg­nant. Women in the early stages of preg­nancy have a high chance of mis­car­riage.

Af­ter I was turned down by sev­eral hos­pi­tals, I felt dis­heart­ened and al­most thought of giv­ing up.

With­out much hope, I asked a friend whom I knew when I gave birth tomy first child— we were in the same ma­ter­nity ward— if she knew any­one at a hos­pi­tal. She helped me reg­is­ter at Bei­jing Tian Tan Hos­pi­tal, which is fa­mous for its neu­ro­surgery depart­ment.

I am grate­ful to her, re­ally. Other­wise I can­not imag­ine where I would go when I am due in De­cem­ber.

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