Shang­hai na­tives seek own kind

China Daily (USA) - - CHINA - By CHI­NADAILY

Nearly 80 per­cent of young, sin­gle peo­ple in Shang­hai said they want their part­ners to have been born in the city, a sur­vey showed.

The sur­vey of more than 1,800 peo­ple aged 18 to 40 in Shang­hai also found that the num­ber of “left­over men” — those still sin­gle in their 30s— is larger than that of “left­over women”.

Zhou Juemin, one of the ini­tia­tors of the sur­vey and pres­i­dent of Shang­hai Match­mak­ing Or­ga­ni­za­tion Ad­min­is­tra­tion As­so­ci­a­tion, said on Tues­day that there’s a huge “mar­riage mar­ket” in Shang­hai and other parts of China, and the sur­vey will help the or­ga­ni­za­tion do a bet­ter job.

In the past five years, eight large match­mak­ing events were held in Shang­hai, each of them boast­ing more than 10,000 par­tic­i­pants, she said.

Ac­cord­ing to the sur­vey, 77.4 per­cent of the re­spon­dents born in Shang­hai said they only wanted Shang­hai na­tives as part­ners. Peo­ple born in East, South and South­west China, andHong Kong, Ma­cao and Tai­wan, are in­clined to have part­ners born in South China, the sur­vey showed.

The ra­tio be­tween left­over men and women was 53.3 to 46.7, ac­cord­ing to the fig­ures re­leased by the mu­nic­i­pal govern­ment in­March.

Ex­perts said that left­over women, rather than­men, of­ten feel con­cerned about their sit­u­a­tion be­cause fe­males place higher im­por­tance on their mar­riage and re­la­tion­ship sta­tus.

“It is the same case with peo­ple from other parts of China,” Zhou said. “Gen­er­ally speak­ing, young Chi­nese peo­ple are more de­sirous of mar­ry­ing some­one from the same birth­place be­cause they share sim­i­lar habits and cus­toms.”

But that leads to an in­creas­ing dif­fi­culty for non-na­tives in the city to find ideal part­ners, she added.

Shu Xin, di­rec­tor Weiqing Group, an of the agency based in Shang­hai that pro­vides coun­sel­ing ser­vices in more than 40 cities na­tion­wide, said that young peo­ple should “lib­er­ate their minds” and ex­plore more­ways of mak­ing friends.

“When mak­ing friends, many peo­ple now ask ques­tions about money or houses on first dates,” he said. “A re­la­tion­ship should start from the cul­ti­va­tion of emo­tional bonds.”

The sur­vey also showed that apart from con­ven­tional match­mak­ing, pop­u­lar ap­proaches for young peo­ple in Shang­hai in­volve web­sites, cell phone apps and TV pro­grams.

What’s more, 72.4 per­cent of male re­spon­dents and 88.2 per­cent of fe­male re­spon­dents said that they could not put up with a part­ner with a low EQ, or emo­tional quo­tient. As a re­sult, an­in­creas­ingnum­berof com­pa­nies and in­sti­tutes pro­vide mar­riage lec­tures for em­ploy­ees to learn “the abil­ity to love”.

As for “an ideal part­ner”, male re­spon­dents hoped that their part­ner could be “young and pretty”, while the op­po­site sex said their hus­bands or boyfriends should be “com­pe­tent and rich”.

ChenYani, 24, aPhDs­tu­dent in Shang­hai, said she has al­ready fore­seen the po­ten­tial dif­fi­culty in find­ing aMr Right.

“I’mliv­ing in a very small cir­cle. Peo­ple I’mac­quainted with are mainly class­mates. I may have to re­sort to the help of match­mak­ing ser­vices,” she said. WenWenyi con­trib­uted to this story.

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