No shame in sex toys

Global Times – Metro Beijing - - TWOCENTS - By Cindy Lin

My French friend was stopped by se­cu­rity at an air­port in Guang­dong Prov­ince re­cently. She had put her per­sonal be­long­ings through the air­port scan­ner, and ap­par­ently, they saw some­thing. A male se­cu­rity guard opened one of her bags and pointed at sev­eral boxes whose pack­ag­ing had im­ages of vi­bra­tors. “What’re these?” he asked. “Women stuff,” my friend an­swered. He was flab­ber­gasted. “You should have seen his face,” my friend told me when we met on the other side.

I can to­tally un­der­stand why the se­cu­rity guard be­haved that way. While sex toys are not un­usual things for Western women, most Chi­nese still view them as un­ortho­dox.

Sex­ual ac­tiv­ity is ris­ing among young peo­ple in China, but peo­ple’s idea of sex and sex­u­al­ity is still con­ser­va­tive.

Chi­nese women who talk about their sex­ual de­sires and plea­sure are of­ten deemed “shame­less” and “sluts.”

They are ex­pected to be ig­no­rant about sex-re­lated top­ics be­cause of tra­di­tional val­ues.

“Sex toys are never a topic in Western coun­tries. They’re so nor­mal that we give them as gifts to friends,” said a male friend from Eng­land, who has bought toys for his wife.

But when my fe­male friend showed her boyfriend some sex toys she bought, he al­most went crazy.

My friend only wanted to add some spark to their sex life, but it clearly af­fected her boyfriend’s ego. She said sex with her boyfriend could be bet­ter. So she con­sulted many other peo­ple, hop­ing to give it a boost. Us­ing sex toys was one of many sug­ges­tions she got.

“But he didn’t buy it,” she said.

I once knew a sex toy ex­pert who held a salon on sex toys. Dozens of peo­ple came to the salon to learn from her.

Her stu­dents were mostly aged be­tween 20 and 35 and were impressed by her teach­ings.

“Nowa­days, peo­ple are re­ally ig­no­rant about sex toys, which have many cat­e­gories and can serve as good fore­play tools,” she had said. “What we are lack­ing is sex ed­u­ca­tion.”

Talk­ing to me, she was quite con­fi­dent that if there were peo­ple ded­i­cated to let­ting oth­ers know that “sex is a beau­ti­ful thing” the so­cial per­cep­tion of sex and sex­u­al­ity could change within the next decade.

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