Wedding invitation politics
I know that many of my colleagues were looking forward to attending my wedding ceremony, but in the end I did not invite any of them ( Red envelopes a blessing or burden? March 7). I did not want to owe them money.
Some of my colleagues married before I got to know them, so I missed the opportunity to give a hongbao (red envelope) at their weddings. Others are either too young or single, and I am afraid that when they get married, I might have changed jobs or would have left the city and would not be able to attend their wedding.
At the same time, there is also a possibility that those I invite might think I want their money. And the fact is that even if someone doesn’t want to attend your wedding, they won’t say no if you invite them because it would be impolite.
A wedding is a happy occasion where the newlyweds should be blessed. That’s why I’d rather not invite them so as to remove the possibility of making them feel reluctant.
Usually, with the exception of family and close friends, weddings are attended by people who owe the new couple a hongbao. After all, it seems fair that one should return the sum that either of the newlyweds gave you when you got married. I really hope that the tradition of giving a hongbao can just go. Then, we can invite whoever we want to our wedding without the headache of deciding who to invite. Zou Min, by e-mail