Wed­ding in­vi­ta­tion pol­i­tics

Global Times – Metro Beijing - - TWOCENTS -

I know that many of my col­leagues were look­ing for­ward to at­tend­ing my wed­ding cer­e­mony, but in the end I did not in­vite any of them ( Red en­velopes a bless­ing or bur­den? March 7). I did not want to owe them money.

Some of my col­leagues mar­ried be­fore I got to know them, so I missed the op­por­tu­nity to give a hong­bao (red en­ve­lope) at their wed­dings. Oth­ers are ei­ther too young or sin­gle, and I am afraid that when they get mar­ried, I might have changed jobs or would have left the city and would not be able to at­tend their wed­ding.

At the same time, there is also a pos­si­bil­ity that those I in­vite might think I want their money. And the fact is that even if some­one doesn’t want to at­tend your wed­ding, they won’t say no if you in­vite them be­cause it would be im­po­lite.

A wed­ding is a happy oc­ca­sion where the new­ly­weds should be blessed. That’s why I’d rather not in­vite them so as to re­move the pos­si­bil­ity of mak­ing them feel re­luc­tant.

Usu­ally, with the ex­cep­tion of fam­ily and close friends, wed­dings are at­tended by peo­ple who owe the new cou­ple a hong­bao. Af­ter all, it seems fair that one should re­turn the sum that ei­ther of the new­ly­weds gave you when you got mar­ried. I re­ally hope that the tra­di­tion of giv­ing a hong­bao can just go. Then, we can in­vite who­ever we want to our wed­ding with­out the headache of de­cid­ing who to in­vite. Zou Min, by e-mail

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