Big wed­ding woes

Global Times – Metro Beijing - - TWOCENTS - By Priyanka Sharma

She may be a lawyer, a doc­tor or a law-en­force­ment of­fi­cer. She ap­pears to be tough, strong and a prac­ti­cal per­son, but ev­ery­body has a soft cen­ter and some end up show­ing it while plan­ning their wed­ding.

It all starts in­no­cently. She wants her wed­ding to re­flect her per­son­al­ity. It will be an in­ti­mate gath­er­ing with min­i­mum re­sources. But then the guest list reaches the three-digit mark, her small menu now has 10 ap­pe­tiz­ers, and the quaint venue she first booked is now too small. The sim­ple wed­ding dress that she picked has been re­placed by an $8,000 wed­ding gown. She’s not into jew­elry, but one day she ends up at Tif­fany’s and can’t tear her eyes away from a di­a­mond neck­lace that will go per­fectly with her wed­ding gown. But there is noth­ing to re­gret, she is be­ing swept away by her “girly” emo­tions that she has kept at bay by think­ing ra­tio­nally, and her wed­ding is a once in a life time oc­ca­sion to give into those hid­den feel­ings.

She dives in head first. Flow­ers, makeup, cam­eras, lights, food, dresses, jew­elry, there are a thousand things to ar­range and she will not stop un­til ev­ery­thing is per­fect and just the way she wants it.

But per­fec­tion doesn’t ex­ist, and no wed­ding goes on with­out an in­ci­dent. It starts with a zit on her nose and es­ca­lates to a miss­ing bridal car and soon the domi­noes start top­pling down. The re­sult is a pan­ick­ing, order-bark­ing party plan­ner, which should have been a calm, dreamy-eyed, blush­ing bride.

How do I know? I went through the same thing at my wed­ding. My mother had to hold me back from jog­ging down the aisle, and the cam­era­man had to lit­er­ally plead with me to at least try and act like a bride.

I am not the only one. My friends, cousins and oth­ers who have opted for a big wed­ding re­mem­ber it as a big haze or a blurry evening. One of my friends was so ex­hausted from all the wed­ding prepa­ra­tion that af­ter the wed­ding when she fi­nally got a chance to sleep prop­erly, she didn’t even re­mem­ber get­ting mar­ried.

One thing that cou­ples for­get while opt­ing for a big wed­ding is that it’s not them but the guests who en­joy the months of hard work and years of sav­ing, and all the cou­ple is left with is a hazy mem­ory and some pho­to­graphs to re­mem­ber it by. How­ever, for some, it is all worth it.

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