Focus on what you can change
Lindsay married into my aunt’s family five years ago ( Privacy or filial piety? May 3). When WeChat started to become popular among senior citizens, our family members befriended each other in a big family WeChat group. The atmosphere in the WeChat group always seemed harmonious until I saw a cynical WeChat Moments post from my cousin-inlaw, Lindsay, about my aunt.
Obviously, she blocked my aunt from seeing her Moments. But she might not have expected that other family members would see the post and find out that she was speaking bad words behind her mother-in-law’s back.
I usually hear complaints from my married friends about their mothers-in-law. They say they would appear too aloof if they do not add their mothers-in-law on WeChat and that after adding them, they hesitate when they want to post something on their WeChat Moments.
I think all this awkwardness and blocking are a result of the natural “emotional gap” between daughters-in-law and mothers-in-law. Based on Chinese tradition, young people should first show respect to their elders and a harmonious relationship is grounded on mutual understanding and compromise. Instead of thinking hard about how to block your mother-in-law from intervening in your cyber life, why not use the time to improve your relationship with her? Katherin Hu, by e-mail