Forming long-term relationships is definitely no easy task ( Finding friends in Beijing, July 9). Although it might be easier to make friends in international metropolises compared to small cities, the chances are that the friendships we develop with people from different countries will still be difficult to maintain.
I studied in London for several months. In such a wonderful international city where you can come across people from different cultural backgrounds, it is not hard to find one’s place among the diverse groups, and I was soon accepted as a part of the community.
Caitlin from Durham invited me to her friend Katy’s 21st birthday party where I made a bunch of young friends from the northern part of the UK. Suzune from Tokyo introduced me to the members of Japanese society, and I soon learned to make delicious sushi. On weekends, I went on trips to Oxford with Marion from France and other students from different university departments. We didn’t know each other before, but the shared passion for traveling brought us together.
Those were some of the most fantastic experiences in my life. However, since I left the UK, I have felt a bit “disconnected” from my friends there. Because of the eight-hour time difference, we can’t find a proper time to chat online, and the distance makes meeting up impossible. I’m not even sure if I’ll ever meet them in the future.
I think most of the friendships may fade. Perhaps all we can do is to accept reality and feel blessed to have the few that remain. Madeleine Chen, by e-mail