In China, fu­ture grooms also ex­pect to be pam­pered

Global Times – Metro Shanghai - - FRONT PAGE - By Olivia Zhang

My hus­band and I had our wed­ding pic­tures taken re­cently. It’s a tra­di­tion in China to find a photography stu­dio and put on dif­fer­ent styles of wed­ding dresses, such as West­ern and tra­di­tional Chi­nese, and shoot photos be­fore the cer­e­mony. The photos will be shown at the wed­ding cer­e­mony and in the cou­ple’s new home.

Since girls are usu­ally more into hav­ing the pho­to­graphs taken, the makeup artists and the pho­tog­ra­phers tend to fo­cus on the bride. The makeup artists spend hours cre­at­ing dif­fer­ent looks for the women, and they only spend at most 15 min­utes ap­ply­ing some light foun­da­tion and touch­ing up the men’s faces. How­ever, re­cently men are start­ing to have a prob­lem with this.

Af­ter the makeup artists spend over an hour and half on me, they only spent 10 min­utes on my hus­band.

My hus­band was sur­prised that his makeup ses­sion was so short con­sid­er­ing he sat on the couch for hours watch­ing the com­pli­cated process of my makeup ap­pli­ca­tion and my trans­for­ma­tion.

He was look­ing for­ward to en­joy­ing a lit­tle bit the same “royal treat­ment.” Yet, to his dis­ap­point­ment, he didn't. He felt a lit­tle ne­glected be­cause af­ter all, it’s his mar­riage and wed­ding pic­tures too.

Later, when the photo shoot started, he felt even more ne­glected.

The pho­tog­ra­pher took a lot of sin­gle shots of me, and my hus­band spent most of his time sit­ting on the side­lines watch­ing me be­ing treated like a star with all the cam­eras and at­ten­tion on me. He looked like a lit­tle boy who has been benched by his bas­ket­ball coach.

Even when the pho­tog­ra­pher told him he could take photos with me, the pho­tog­ra­pher would still fo­cus on me and only shot my hus­band’s back, his side and only half of his face while he held and kissed me.

The bride is still the lead char­ac­ter in the pho­to­graph.

My hus­band joked that he was only a prop in the photo shoot, just like the fan, vase or flower I held, and that he felt he was dis­pens­able and un­nec­es­sary.

Later, I talked to the makeup artist, and she told me that many grooms com­plain about how lit­tle time she spends on them be­cause they want to look good too. She said she had a male client who spe­cially had a nose job for the photo shoot to look good, and de­manded that the pho­tog­ra­pher take more sin­gle photos of him. Men are start­ing to care more about their ap­pear­ances, and want to have some hand­some pic­tures too.

Wed­ding pic­tures are not just about nice photos; the process of tak­ing wed­ding pic­tures gives the cou­ple a cer­e­mo­nial sense about mar­riage, which helps them cre­ate un­for­get­table mem­o­ries. That sense of cer­e­mony is not only im­por­tant to the bride, the groom needs and val­ues it too.

So later, I asked the pho­tog­ra­pher sev­eral times to take more pic­tures of my hus­band so he wouldn't feel left out and to cre­ate a deeper feel­ing about mar­riage, or just to meet his ego.

Illustration: Luo Xuan/GT The opin­ions ex­pressed in this ar­ti­cle are the au­thor’s own and do not nec­es­sar­ily re­flect the views of the Global Times.

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