I would not,

Hong Kong Tatler - - The Great Debate -

Lianne Lam

be­cause I wouldn’t want to put them in an em­bar­rass­ing sit­u­a­tion. Ev­ery­one wants to make a new ac­quain­tance feel at ease. If, later, they look in a mir­ror and no­tice some­thing stuck in their teeth, they’ll prob­a­bly re­act in one of sev­eral ways: “Oops! Got this thingy in my teeth but luck­ily she never no­ticed,” or, “Oh, how nice. She no­ticed but re­frained from em­bar­rass­ing me.” Also, the of­fend­ing blem­ish may dis­ap­pear be­fore the ac­quain­tance has even no­ticed it. With such pos­si­ble sce­nar­ios, why bother draw­ing at­ten­tion to it? Also, my goal with new ac­quain­tances is to fo­cus on the per­son and foster a smooth-flow­ing con­ver­sa­tion. This should not be in­ter­rupted by up­set­ting re­marks about a per­son’s ap­pear­ance, such as “Ex­cuse me, you’ve got some­thing stuck be­tween your teeth.” The per­son would be­come em­bar­rassed and have to tend to their ap­pear­ance, and sub­se­quent in­ter­ac­tion may be awk­ward. It would be an un­for­tu­nate faux pas to in­ter­rupt a con­ver­sa­tion in such as way.

Lianne is a so­lic­i­tor and a big fan of eques­trian sports

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