Bring Happiness to Yourself
On New Year’s Day, my parents, my sister with her husband and son, came to visit me in Beijing.
After dinner we were preparing to go to Wangfujing Street and had just come out of the restaurant when my mother got up on her tippy-toes to button up my father’s collar. The next day when we visited Nanluogu Lane, for every few steps, Father looked back to make sure my mother followed. He worried that she might get in the endless streams of people. Later, he even asked her to walk a few steps ahead so that he could easily keep an eye on her.
When we were back at the hotel that night, I asked my mother, “How come decades are like a day to you guys? I mean, you two are still so close, why is that?”
My mother answered in a simple idiom, “He who has tolerance is at peace.”
“What do you mean by tolerance? Tolerate what? Don’t you feel unhappy having to be tolerant every day?” I asked.
Mother smiled: “Tolerance doesn’t mean I have to put up with your father’s temper, but that I control my own emotions.”
At that moment, I realized that happiness can come so easily for a person like my mom, who doesn’t ask for much.
I now look back on those moments last Spring Festival, when I talked to my mother about happiness.
I asked her, “How can we bring happiness to our loved ones?”
“Bring happiness to yourself. When you are filled with happiness, it will naturally overflow and touch other’s life.” Such simple but profound words of wisdom.
( From TheStoryteller , The Writers Publishing House. Translation: Huilan)