How can women achieve hap­pi­ness af­ter mar­riage?

The Daily News Egypt - - Front Page - By Ne­hal Samir

Newly-wed cou­ples reg­u­larly suf­fer much from the fear of the un­known and stress arises when they think of the new stage in their life that they are em­bark­ing on.

Then, af­ter mar­riage, they dis­cover that mar­riage life goes through many changes and de­vel­op­ments;some­times it is bor­ing, or dom­i­nated by rou­tine, and other times, it’s happy. Those changes are al­ways caused by the cou­ples them­selves.We can­not place ev­ery­thing only in the hands of women,as if they have the key or the magic wand through which crises will be over­come and is­sues are set straight.

But ob­servers can­not deny that women play a large role and that they are an im­por­tant pil­lar of the fam­ily Who could pay at­ten­tion to many things af­ter mar­riage that can turn their and their fam­ily’s lives to hap­pi­ness af­ter mar­riage. The ques­tion is, what are these things? How can women turn their fam­ily life into hap­pi­ness? Is this hap­pi­ness re­lated to spe­cific things that they should do?

The an­swer is that hap­pi­ness in mar­riage is re­lated to dif­fer­ent areas of life. It’s re­lated to hav­ing in­ner peace, re­lated to sports, re­lated to good nutri­tion, and also re­lated to hav­ing a pos­i­tive moth­er­hood ex­pe­ri­ence.

Daily News Egypt tries to find out how women can be happy af­ter mar­riage by pos­ing the ques­tion to ex­perts in dif­fer­ent fields.

Hanan Sabry, life coach, told Daily News Egypt that there is a sig­nif­i­cant rise in the di­vorce rate in Egypt for many rea­sons, which are that young men and women are not el­i­gi­ble for mar­riage. They don’t fully com­pre­hend the re­quire­ments of mar­riage, or the re­spon­si­bil­i­ties that they must face in wed­lock.

She also noted that no one in Egypt reads books about mar­riage be­fore get­ting mar­ried.

Fur­ther­more, Sabry added that among the rea­sons for the high di­vorce rate in Egypt is that the in­ti­macy in re­la­tion­ships be­tween mar­ried cou­ples has be­come very lim­ited due to an in­crease in ad­dic­tion to watch­ing porn on­line and the spread of af­fairs and other forms of in­fi­delity in Egypt.

Also, she pointed out that there is an­other prob­lem which is that men of­ten pre­fer to es­cape from their home and spend most of their time out­side their homes, ei­ther sit­ting with their friends at cafés or sit­ting at work do­ing noth­ing, be­cause they feel nei­ther com­fort­able nor happy at home, thus women feel that they are al­ways alone at home and thus, this also re­sults in fa­thers feel­ing dis­con­nected from their children.

Sabry noted that the so­lu­tion to those prob­lems is that the newly cou­ples should take cour­ses be­fore mar­riage on be­ing pre­pared for mar­riage, which are reg­u­larly held at mosques and churches.

Moroever, she has some tips for cou­ples af­ter mar­riage to re­fresh mar­riage life and to break the rou­tine. This in­cludes neomg keen to par­tic­i­pate in the in­ter­ests of your part­ner, such as go­ing to the gym, or to de­vote a day of the week to spend time to­gether, hang­ing out or mak­ing some­thing special to­gether. Cou­ples may also try to form ro­man­tic mo­ments and cher­ished mem­o­ries, she said, in or­der to help them over­come their prob­lems. “Also, read a lot of books about mar­riage be­cause cul­tur­ing your­self re­duces the in­ci­dence of prob­lems,” she said.

“Tak­ing into con­sid­er­a­tion that ev­ery age comes with new skills and changes that oc­cur in men and women, that must be ac­cepted and dealt with in the right way,” she as­serted.

Fi­nally, she said that when women fo­cus on their dreams, this will solve a large por­tion of the prob­lems that Egyp­tian fam­i­lies face, as they will be more fo­cused on their own life and not as pre­oc­cu­pied with their hus­bands’ move­ments, thus men will be hap­pier in their homes and will not try to spend most of their time out of them.

How does nutri­tion af­fect mar­riage life?

Lolita, a nutri­tion ex­pert famous for her life­style diet ser­vice through What­sApp, told Daily News Egypt that women should main­tain their ideal weight through­out their lives,and should not main­tain the per­fect weight just to wear their wed­ding dresses, but must be ad­here to it through­out life.

She said that a prob­lem most women run into af­ter mar­riage is that they eat too much dur­ing the hon­ey­moon pe­riod, and then in the preg­nancy pe­riod, then they be­came sur­prised that they sud­denly gained ex­cess weight.

She added that women must get rid of mis­guided in­her­ited eat­ing habits,and al­ways find healthy al­ter­na­tive foods,ex­plain­ing that reach­ing their ideal weight means they will have a healthy life that is free of dis­eases, as the ideal weight pre­vents many ill­nesses, such as heart dis­ease, high choles­terol, etc.

Lolita revealed that through­out her ex­pe­ri­ence in nutri­tion,she found that women and girls in Egypt mostly suf­fer from a de­fi­ciency of zinc and cal­cium in their blood.

She ex­plained that the lack of zinc comes as a re­sult of the lack of the vi­ta­min C and the lack of cal­cium comes as a re­sult of the lack of vi­ta­min D.

So, she ad­vises ev­ery woman to ex­pose her child to the sun un­til the age of six years in or­der to gain enough vi­ta­min D and to make them eat fresh veg­eta­bles and fruits that con­tain vi­ta­min C.

On the other hand, she ad­vised ev­ery newly-wed cou­ple, who see a no­tice­able in­crease in their weight af­ter a few weeks of mar­riage, to eat a spoon of olive oil on an empty stom­ach daily, and to drink plenty of water.

Fi­nally, she as­sured that hav­ing the ideal weight al­ways makes women happy in their lives and that good nutri­tion is al­ways re­flected on their fam­i­lies’ health,which re­sults in a happy life.

What are the prob­lems that new moth­ers face?

“Am I the only mother who face these prob­lems with my kids?” To an­swer these ques­tions, Ola Roshdy, an ac­tress who founded the “Weghet Mazar” (an Ara­bic play on words of point of few and mother’s per­spec­tive) show that she shares onYouTube.

Roshdy told Daily News Egypt that she start­edWeghet Mazar in De­cem­ber 2016. She ex­plained that Weghet Mazar is a pro­gramme on YouTube that pro­vides aware­ness for moth­ers about moth­er­hood in var­i­ous fields, in­clud­ing ed­u­ca­tion, med­i­cal, and so­cial prob­lems.

She pointed out that the idea of it came when she be­came a mother, as she ex­pe­ri­enced many prob­lems with her children that no one told her about be­fore. Thus, she de­cided to record videos of her children, ex­plain­ing the prob­lems that she faces with them, in or­der to share her ex­pe­ri­ence with other moth­ers and to show how she solved the is­sues.

She said that when she made the YouTube show, she found that the prob­lems that faced her are the same as those faced by many new moth­ers and can be summed up in the fact that new changes are hap­pen­ing in their lives and that they can’t deal with these changes due to no one mak­ing them aware of or pre­par­ing them for these changes.

Roshdy ex­plained that she chose the so­cial me­dia chan­nel as moth­ers al­ways don’t have time to watch tele­vi­sion and, when they can, they can­not al­ways watch a pro­gramme at a fixed time,so she de­cided to make it a show on the in­ter­net so that when moth­ers are avail­able and have free time, they can find it eas­ily.

Fi­nally, through the ex­perts’ re­marks, it can be con­tended that there is no prob­lem-free home, there is no ideal mar­ried life, but women must know how to han­dle prob­lems that arise and live with them in one way or an­other.

Daily News Egypt in­ter­viewed the ex­perts on the side­lines of Our Wed­ding Car­ni­val, which launched its sixth con­sec­u­tive edi­tion on 16 and 17 March at the Royal Maxim Palace Kempin­ski Ho­tel, where 150 ex­hibitors show­cased the lat­est fash­ion and prod­ucts for all sorts of wed­ding re­quire­ments and modern lifestyles.

This year’s ex­hi­bi­tion wit­nessed ex­cit­ing new ad­di­tions,in­clud­ing host­ing, for the first time, a special booth for “Su­per Women En­trepreneurs”, where four women show­cased their home­made hand­i­crafts. Also for the first time, the ex­hi­bi­tion hosted eight life ses­sions given by top ex­perts in the field to help fu­ture mar­ried cou­ples and new fam­i­lies to sail through their new life,which took place on the first day of the ex­hi­bi­tion.

The ses­sions fea­tured ac­tress Ola Roshdy, Hanan Sabry, and Lolita.

Not only that, but Mo­hamed Sweil­lam and Nevine Mah­moud also par­tic­i­pated, along with ra­dio an­chors from Mega FM host­ing a lively in­ter­ac­tive de­bate ses­sion on how “Men are from Mars,Women are fromVenus”.

Other ses­sions in­clude a live de­mon­stra­tion by Aya Ab­del Hamid, a makeup artist, who pre­sented how to ap­ply a flaw­less makeup look and a ses­sion by Mah­moud Fekry, a fit­ness trainer and spe­cial­ist, who shared some fit­ness and ex­er­cise tips, in ad­di­tion to re­la­tion­ship coaches Hos­sam El-Ghoroury and Fa­timah Ghaith, who pre­sented their tips for healthy re­la­tion­ships.

The ex­hi­bi­tion’s sec­ond day fea­tured three fash­ion shows show­cas­ing the de­signs of Syr­ian fash­ion de­signer Ay­man Lah­mouni’s brand A&L,Ate­lier Reem, and Tiara Bridal, in ad­di­tion to Ahmed Es­sam’s en­ter­tain­ment shows.

For his part, Sherif Ashraf, man­ag­ing direc­tor of Red Square and or­gan­iser of Our Wed­ding Car­ni­val, said that the im­por­tance of the event emerges from the ris­ing im­por­tance of the wed­ding in­dus­try glob­ally.

He ex­plained that Egypt has all the po­ten­tial needed for shin­ing in this in­dus­try, and thus sup­port­ing the Egyp­tian econ­omy, es­pe­cially af­ter the an­nounce­ment of the lat­est sta­tis­tics of the Cen­tral Agency for Pub­lic Mo­bil­i­sa­tion and Sta­tis­tics (CAPMAS) that more than one mil­lion young men and women got mar­ried in 2016.

He as­sured that OurWed­ding Car­ni­val tries to pro­vide a va­ri­ety of af­ford­able of­fers that suit all budgets, whether in Egypt or in the Arab re­gion,through mak­ing avail­able ex­perts from the in­dus­try,as well as ho­tels and venues that hold wed­ding re­cep­tions from all Arab coun­tries.

«Our Wed­ding Car­ni­val is the first-ever event [in the Arab world] to change the con­cept of wed­dings and help cou­ples to start suc­cess­ful do­mes­tic bliss,and the world’s sec­ond largest wed­ding fes­ti­val af­ter Canada,” Ashraf said.

Lolita, a nutri­tion ex­pert, is famous for her life­style diet ser­vice through What­sApp

Ola Roshdy, an ac­tress who founded the YouTube show “Weghet Mazar” (an Ara­bic play on words of point of few and mother’s per­spec­tive)

Hanan Sabry, a life coach

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