Mar­i­tal bliss in trou­ble? Stop ex­pect­ing so much from your spouse

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Hav­ing high ex­pec­ta­tions from your spouse can lead to un­nec­es­sary con­flict and even di­vorce, finds a newly-pub­lished study. For mar­riages in­volv­ing higher lev­els of in­di­rect hos­til­ity or other se­vere prob­lems, keep­ing high ex­pec­ta­tions fur­ther erodes the re­la­tion­ship, re­searchers warn, adding that high stan­dards — whether in car­ing, sup­port or in­de­pen­dence — im­prove sat­is­fac­tion only in strongly-bonded mar­i­tal ties. “Some peo­ple de­mand too much from their mar­riages be­cause they feel that their mar­riages must ful­fill the needs that they are not ca­pa­ble of achiev­ing ei­ther be­cause they have lim­ited time, en­ergy, ef­fort, or skills to ap­ply to their mar­riages,” ex­plained lead re­searcher James McNulty from Florida State Univer­sity. HIN­DUS­TAN TIMES

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