Our Fail­ure At Home Is Re­flected In So­ci­ety

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This is a tran­script of Ne­mani De­laibatiki’s My Say for FBC TV’s 4 The Record pro­gramme

One of the big news this week is the roll­out of the Help for Homes to help vic­tims of Trop­i­cal Cy­clone Win­ston whose houses were badly dam­aged or de­stroyed. The large turnout by peo­ple for regis­tra­tion in­di­cates the pop­u­lar­ity of this scheme. It is de­signed to help the gen­uine vic­tims but as we know there would be at­tempts to ac­cess the funds through de­vi­ous means. This is why the False In­for­ma­tion Act 2016 was passed by Par­lia­ment last week to deal with this prob­lem.

It ap­pears to be in­grained in the sub­con­scious mind of some of our peo­ple. The quest for quick and easy money mo­ti­vates peo­ple to en­gage in high-risk and some­times il­le­gal ac­tiv­i­ties to sat­isfy their im­moral and self­ish acts.

If any­one not el­i­gi­ble lies to get money set aside for the real vic­tims they should bow their heads in shame. They be­long to what it seems to be a grow­ing num­ber of peo­ple look­ing for in­stant self grat­i­fi­ca­tion.

It re­flects the grad­ual moral de­cay in our so­ci­ety that is man­i­fest­ing it­self in a num­ber of ar­eas.

Sex­ual of­fences, like in­de­cent as­sault, in­cest, and rape have es­ca­lated to an alarm­ing level. Statis­tics re­leased by law en­force­ment agen­cies show that they con­tinue to rise.

Other crim­i­nal of­fences like rob­beries and home in­va­sions ap­pear to be on the rise too. Al­co­hol abuse and il­le­gal drug trade con­tinue to be preva­lent and hav­ing a dis­as­trous im­pact on in­di­vid­u­als and fam­i­lies. All th­ese in­di­cate that we have a se­ri­ous prob­lem on our hands and we need to ad­dress it now. Where do we start? I be­lieve we should go back to where it all starts - in the home with the fam­ily nu­cleus. The ram­i­fi­ca­tions of our fail­ure in the home now could still be felt in gen­er­a­tions to come. A nu­cleus fam­ily com­prises the par­ents and the chil­dren.

An ideal sit­u­a­tion is to have a strong and sta­ble fam­ily where the par­ents are gain­fully em­ployed to be able to pro­vide for their chil­dren, to feed them, house them, clothe them, ed­u­cate them, teach them moral and re­li­gious val­ues and pro­tect them from harm and dan­ger. That is the ba­sic re­spon­si­bil­ity of all par­ents. Those who fall short must change course and en­sure they ful­fill all th­ese re­spon­si­bil­i­ties. When chil­dren do not get the proper at­ten­tion at home they tend to look else­where. That’s when they get in­volved with the wrong crowd and turn to mis­chief. A happy and well trained child will most likely grow up to be­come a pro­duc­tive and law-abid­ing cit­i­zen.

If all fam­i­lies can do all they can to raise chil­dren who value hon­est hard work, love ed­u­ca­tion, re­spect oth­ers de­spite their lim­i­ta­tions and obey the law, many of the chal­lenges we now face, will be over­come. Churches and re­li­gious or­ga­ni­za­tions also need to step up and fo­cus their teach­ings to ad­dress the is­sues. Their fol­low­ers must know that it is wrong to steal, in­vade peo­ple’s pri­vacy, use vi­o­lence against women and chil­dren, com­mit sex­ual of­fences against them, use dis­hon­est prac­tices for fi­nan­cial gain and dis­crim­i­nate peo­ple on the grounds of sex, race and phys­i­cal con­di­tions. The churches have a moral obli­ga­tion to re­in­force the fam­ily and the home. Schools also play an im­por­tant sup­port­ive role on top of their core role to teach aca­demic sub­jects.

Last but not least are the sup­port of Govern­ment de­part­ments, law en­force­ment agen­cies and non-gov­ern­men­tal or­ga­ni­za­tions or NGOs. When we all join hands we can help re­duce the risks of our peo­ple get­ting into trou­ble. We do not have to worry about abuse and cor­rup­tion. And we do not have to ap­ply the False In­for­ma­tion Act and send peo­ple to jail for long pe­ri­ods.

Where do we start? I be­lieve we should go back to where it all starts - in the home with the fam­ily nu­cleus. The ram­i­fi­ca­tions of our fail­ure in the home now could still be felt in gen­er­a­tions to come.

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