Our Failure At Home Is Reflected In Society
This is a transcript of Nemani Delaibatiki’s My Say for FBC TV’s 4 The Record programme
One of the big news this week is the rollout of the Help for Homes to help victims of Tropical Cyclone Winston whose houses were badly damaged or destroyed. The large turnout by people for registration indicates the popularity of this scheme. It is designed to help the genuine victims but as we know there would be attempts to access the funds through devious means. This is why the False Information Act 2016 was passed by Parliament last week to deal with this problem.
It appears to be ingrained in the subconscious mind of some of our people. The quest for quick and easy money motivates people to engage in high-risk and sometimes illegal activities to satisfy their immoral and selfish acts.
If anyone not eligible lies to get money set aside for the real victims they should bow their heads in shame. They belong to what it seems to be a growing number of people looking for instant self gratification.
It reflects the gradual moral decay in our society that is manifesting itself in a number of areas.
Sexual offences, like indecent assault, incest, and rape have escalated to an alarming level. Statistics released by law enforcement agencies show that they continue to rise.
Other criminal offences like robberies and home invasions appear to be on the rise too. Alcohol abuse and illegal drug trade continue to be prevalent and having a disastrous impact on individuals and families. All these indicate that we have a serious problem on our hands and we need to address it now. Where do we start? I believe we should go back to where it all starts - in the home with the family nucleus. The ramifications of our failure in the home now could still be felt in generations to come. A nucleus family comprises the parents and the children.
An ideal situation is to have a strong and stable family where the parents are gainfully employed to be able to provide for their children, to feed them, house them, clothe them, educate them, teach them moral and religious values and protect them from harm and danger. That is the basic responsibility of all parents. Those who fall short must change course and ensure they fulfill all these responsibilities. When children do not get the proper attention at home they tend to look elsewhere. That’s when they get involved with the wrong crowd and turn to mischief. A happy and well trained child will most likely grow up to become a productive and law-abiding citizen.
If all families can do all they can to raise children who value honest hard work, love education, respect others despite their limitations and obey the law, many of the challenges we now face, will be overcome. Churches and religious organizations also need to step up and focus their teachings to address the issues. Their followers must know that it is wrong to steal, invade people’s privacy, use violence against women and children, commit sexual offences against them, use dishonest practices for financial gain and discriminate people on the grounds of sex, race and physical conditions. The churches have a moral obligation to reinforce the family and the home. Schools also play an important supportive role on top of their core role to teach academic subjects.
Last but not least are the support of Government departments, law enforcement agencies and non-governmental organizations or NGOs. When we all join hands we can help reduce the risks of our people getting into trouble. We do not have to worry about abuse and corruption. And we do not have to apply the False Information Act and send people to jail for long periods.
Where do we start? I believe we should go back to where it all starts - in the home with the family nucleus. The ramifications of our failure in the home now could still be felt in generations to come.