When­ever he looks at him­self in the mir­ror, my 3-year-old tells me how beau­ti­ful he is. — Should I stop these some­what pre­ten­tious out­bursts?

Milk Magazine (English) - - EDUCATION -

Caroline Khanafer, clin­i­cal psy­chol­o­gist. At that age, in a child’s de­vel­op­ment, play­ing with a mir­ror has an im­por­tant role. He is tam­ing his im­age. If he re­peat­edly says that he is beau­ti­ful, then it’s prob­a­bly be­cause he has heard you and those close to you say­ing it. He knows that it’ll make his mummy happy. It’d be a good idea to shift the no­tion of beauty from the phys­i­cal con­text and in­clude it in some­thing deeper (kind­ness, in­ner beauty, benev­o­lence). He’ll thus un­der­stand that his aes­thetic beauty isn’t a pre­req­ui­site for your love and that he doesn’t only ex­ist in the eyes of other peo­ple. To help him leave this fo­cus on phys­i­cal beauty be­hind, try pulling faces with him in the mir­ror. Ask your­self why you tell him that you think he’s good-look­ing. It’s of­ten the (quite nat­u­ral) ex­pres­sion of the plea­sure of moth­er­hood.

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