My 16-year-old son still wets the bed. — What should I do?
Liliane Holstein, psychoanalyst. If you’ve explored all medical causes (secondary enuresis is one), then it is important to consult a psychologist. At this age, your teenager must be suffering deeply and feeling incredibly ashamed or he may even be in social withdrawal (he no longer dares to sleep at friends’ houses and must be scared of starting any sort of amorous relationship). More than enough to destroy his confidence. This type of problem often results from a radical change in his life. It may also be related to the fact that your teenager has a problem he’s unable to deal with, though he may not show his distress in public. Don’t make any humiliating comments and respect his privacy (he should be the one to put his bed linen in the wash basket, for example). With such a delicate problem, only a professional will be able to understand his subconscious mechanisms.