— “I’m bored…” Our 9-year-old daughter keeps telling us this. How can we help her not to “be bored” without having to keep her occupied all the time?
Your daughter could be expressing several things. Paying heed to her is one way of easing the situation. She says she’s bored, but what is she actually trying to tell you? Take this approach, for example: when she says: “I’m bored,” show her that you’ve heard her: “I can see that you’re bored.” Don’t ask her questions, but let her talk. She may reply: “Oh, yes, I’m so bored. I want to do something.” You: “Do you want to play at something else?” She might say: “Yes, with you…” And you’ll say: “Ah, you want us to do something together.” Either your child is really bored and this phase will soon pass, or there’s a hidden message and helping her to express it will be the key to solving the problem.