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Caro­line Khanafer, clin­i­cal psy­chol­o­gist

Chil­dren have the abil­ity to turn an or­di­nary story into an ex­tra­or­di­nary tale. It’s all about savour­ing lan­guage and the im­pact words can have on oth­ers. The idea is not to say that her friend is telling lies, but rather to al­low her to doubt some of it by re­ply­ing: “That’s a pretty fan­tas­tic story, isn’t it?” Only if her friend tries to frighten her will it be nec­es­sary to re­act more strongly. In that case, don’t hes­i­tate to say: “I’m a lit­tle trou­bled by what you are telling me… I won­der if your friend hasn’t got things mixed up. I don’t re­ally be­lieve that that’s pos­si­ble.” While telling each other sto­ries is a way of so­cial­is­ing at this age when per­son­al­i­ties are be­ing con­structed, ex­plain to her that one doesn’t need to ex­pe­ri­ence ex­tra­or­di­nary things to be liked.

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