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Caroline Khanafer, clinical psychologist
Children have the ability to turn an ordinary story into an extraordinary tale. It’s all about savouring language and the impact words can have on others. The idea is not to say that her friend is telling lies, but rather to allow her to doubt some of it by replying: “That’s a pretty fantastic story, isn’t it?” Only if her friend tries to frighten her will it be necessary to react more strongly. In that case, don’t hesitate to say: “I’m a little troubled by what you are telling me… I wonder if your friend hasn’t got things mixed up. I don’t really believe that that’s possible.” While telling each other stories is a way of socialising at this age when personalities are being constructed, explain to her that one doesn’t need to experience extraordinary things to be liked.