Hair rais­ing hair

Alive - - Contents - by Dr Prem­pal Singh Valyan

More than just crown­ing your head, hair have much deeper im­pli­ca­tions and help com­mu­ni­cate sub­tle sig­nals of courtship.

She stood be­fore him, her long, shin­ing hair swirling around bare shoul­ders. She knew he liked her beau­ti­ful tresses and de­lib­er­ately tossed her head to em­pha­sise the power of arousal the abun­dant locks pos­sessed. He em­braced her slid­ing his hands through the silky mass, and twirling the scented strands around his fin­gers.

He kissed her mouth pas­sion­ately, and buried his face in the sen­su­ous soft­ness. They moved to the bed, where she stripped off her cloth­ing yet re­mained adorned with her crown­ing glory-long-beau­ti­ful hair.

When she pulled him to her, and they be­gan mak­ing love, the tresses spread on the pil­low in a se­duc­tive tan­gle. She moved over his body, brush­ing the curl­ing ends of her feath­ery locks over his naked­ness, ex­cit­ing him to an ex­plo­sive pitch. She mounted him, swing­ing the thick mane away from her face, and let­ting it fall for­ward around his mouth, nos­trils, and eyes in a shim­mer­ing cloud. He clutched her silken hair, as they cul­mi­nated the at­trac­tion that had been sparked by the se­duc­tive qual­ity of her lovely tresses.

Fetishism? Not at all. There are many ways hair helps bring­ing lovers to­gether, and en­hances in­ti­macy. Hair play a dis­tinc­tive part in fore­play for both men and women. It is an im­por­tant fac­tor in sex­ual at­trac­tion.

Through­out hu­man evo­lu­tion, hair have been recog­nised as one of the most com­plex of all erotic sig­nals. Ac­cord­ing to Des­mond Mor­ris, au­thor of The Naked Ape, pubescent de­vel­op­ment of body hair in­di­cates sex­ual ma­tu­rity in hu­man be­ings.

“Men­stru­a­tion be­gins for some fe­males at the age of 10 and by the age of 14, 80 per cent of young fe­males are ac­tively men­stru­at­ing. The de­vel­op­ment of pu­bic hair, the broad­en­ing of the hips, and the swelling of the breasts ac­com­pa­nies this change…“

“By the age of 12, 25 per cent of boys have ex­pe­ri­enced their first ejac­u­la­tion and by 14, 80 per cent have done so. As with the girls, there are char­ac­ter­is­tic ac­com­pa­ny­ing changes. Body hair be­gins to grow, es­pe­cially in the pu­bic re­gion and on the face.

The typ­i­cal se­quence of ap­pear­ance of this hair­ness is: Pu­bic, armpit, up­per lip, cheeks, chin, and then much more grad­u­ally, the chest and other parts of the body...”

Phys­i­cal changes

“Th­ese changes not only dif­fer­en­ti­ate the sex­u­ally ma­ture in­di­vid­ual from the im­ma­ture, but most of them also dis­tin­guish the ma­ture male from the ma­ture fe­male. They not only act as sig­nals re­veal­ing that the sex­ual sys­tem is now func­tional, but also in­di­cate in each case whether it is mas­cu­line or fem­i­nine.”

At a dis­tance, hair have a strong vis­ual im­pact, close it com­mu­ni­cates in a much more in­ti­mate way, trans­mit­ting cer­tain body scents. Hair on the body and on the head col­lect nat­u­ral odors, in­clud­ing sex­ual scents gen­er­ated by our hor­mones.

An­i­mals are far more sen­si­tive to those ol­fac­tory sig­nals, but there’s mount­ing ev­i­dence that hu­mans, too, pick up on them, though some­times in a sub­lim­i­nal or un­con­scious fash-

We’re all aware of a cer­tain magic or in­stant chem­istry that turns us on with­out our hav­ing much con­scious un­der­stand­ing of what is re­ally hap­pen­ing. Hair pro­vide one medium for those sub­tle sig­nals.

Mor­ris con­tin­ues his elab­o­ra­tion of the im­por­tant role hair play in sex­ual sig­nalling be­tween ma­ture adults.

Al­though we our­selves do not pos­sess any large scent glands, we do have a large num­ber of small ones the apoc­rine glands. Th­ese are sim­i­lar to or­di­nary sweat glands, but their se­cre­tions con­tain a higher pro­por­tion of solids. They oc­cur on a num­ber of parts of the body, but there are es­pe­cially high con­cen­tra­tion of them in the re­gions of the armpits and the gen­i­tals. The lo­calised hair-tufts that grow in th­ese ar­eas un­doubt­edly func­tion as im­por­tant scent-traps.

Males in many cul­tures re­move cer­tain of their sec­ondary sex­ual char­ac­ters by shav­ing off their beards and or mus¬taches. Fe­males de­pilate their armpit. As an im­por­tant scent-trap, the armpit hairtuft has to be elim­i­nated if nor­mal dress­ing habits leave that re­gion ex­posed.

Pu­bic hair are al­ways so care­fully con­cealed by cloth­ing that it does not usu­ally war­rant this treat­ment, but it is in­ter­est­ing that this area is also fre­quently shaved by artists, mod­els, whose nu­dity is non-sex­ual.

Sen­si­tive to scent

Sex­ual turn-ons and sex­ual com­pat­i­bil­ity are a mat­ter of en­joy­ing the nat­u­ral scent of an­other per­son. But our an­tisep­tic, de­odorised so­ci­ety pro­motes a cer­tain fas­tid­i­ous­ness that can still im­pinge on the ap­preci­ion. ation of erotic pun­gen­cies.

For ex­am­ple, in­hi­bi­tions about oral sex— ei­ther the giv­ing or the re­ceiv­ing of it — are apt to stem from dis­com­fort over nat­u­ral odors, par­tic­u­larly those of the gen­i­tal hair. Clean­li­ness is fun­da­men­tal in good sex­ual re­la­tions, but de­lib­er­ate de­odor­is­ing of the area is rarely nec­es­sary.

Far more than cloth­ing or cos­met­ics, hair sug­gest sex­ual avail­abil­ity, pro­vokes fan­tasies, and in­vites in­ti­mate touch­ing. Many cul­tures have struck rules that in­sist on women cut­ting their hair once mar­ried.

In some ortho­dox Jewish sects, women shave their heads and wear wigs af­ter mar­riage. Hair cover is re­quired of women in most Eastern Euro­pean and Asian coun­tries, both in pub­lic and in places of wor­ship. Rit­ual

shav­ing is part of tribal mat­ing rites in some African and South Amer­i­can cul­tures, as well.

The an­cient Ro­man poet Ovid ad­vised: “Do not ne­glect your hair.” And the women of Rome took to wear­ing long hair in elab­o­rate coif­feurs or com­pen­sat­ing with wigs. Mean­while among the bar­bar­ians, the an­cient Guals bleached their hair while the An­glo-Sax­ons dyed theirs blue, green and or­ange.

Re­mov­ing hair

By the 13th cen­tury, both men and women were hav­ing their hair cut off, and women went so far as to shave even their eye­brows. The me­dieval age found cul­ture pre­oc­cu­pied with re­li­gious fer­vour and em­pha­sis on ethe­real other world­li­ness. An­gels, it was de­cided, had no hair on their faces or bod­ies. Women of the mid­dle ages were re­quired to em­u­late th­ese spir­i­tual emis­saries in their ap­pear­ance and man­ners.

Beards for men and eye catch­ing coif­feurs for women high­light his­tor­i­cal pe­ri­ods of ex­trav­a­gance and deca­dence. Re­nais­sance ladies of Italy light­ened their hair, while Queen Eliz­a­beth I wore a red wig. A mis­tress of Louis XIV once lost her hat while on a hunt, so she tied up her own long tresses with a lace- trimmed garter.

That fash­ion caught on, only to be ex­ag­ger­ated in the ar­ti­fi­cial hair pieces of

Madame de


mis­tress, who piled her many wigs still higher and gave this style its name. Marie An­toinette ar­ranged her wigs so steep that she had dif­fi­culty pass­ing through door­ways or en­ter­ing her car­riage.

Shav­ing the hair from women’s heads has been a re­cur­ring form of pun­ish­ment, ev­i­dent as re­cently in his­tory as dur­ing World War II. Cen­turies ear­lier, a woman ac­cused of witch­craft was typ­i­cally forced to sub­mit to the shav­ing of her body hair, or worse, to the pluck­ing of each hair, one by one. That cruel and painful prac­tice was ‘jus­ti­fied’ as nec­es­sary in the search for traces of car­nal re­la­tions with the Devil.

Long un­kempt hair be­came the stan­dard cul­tural trade­mark of the so­cial up­heaval of the ‘60s. Lit­er­ally and sym¬bol­i­cally, young peo­ple “Let their hair down”. Con­test­ing sharply with the crew-cut male of the ‘50s, the fuzzy, shaggy, bird-nest hair styles of the “hip­pies” came to rep­re­sent all that was new, free, re­bel­lious, far-out and sex­u­ally lib­er­ated.

There is less flaunt­ing of hair­styles and life­styles in present Amer­i­can cul­ture, al­though con­sid­er­able va­ri­ety and in­di­vid­u­al­ity in hair ex­pres­sion is pre­dom­i­nant. Hair no longer make a strong so­cial state­ment, al­though the sex­ual mes­sage is clear. Hair have be­come the sex sym­bol of the ‘70s.

Fa­mous styles

The tawny, gleam­ing tresses of pop­u­lar ac­tress Far­rah Fawcett Ma­jors, rock­eted her to a po­si­tion as sex god­dess. The style is grace­ful, chic and ex­plic­itly sexy. That style can make a woman seem wan­tonly provoca­tive, and sex­u­ally avail­able.

Posters of Far­rah Fawcett Ma­jors have by now out­sold all other pin­ups, and women by the thou­sands try to em­u­late her wild, leo­nine looks, (the se­cret is in hav­ing enough hair for the style to be cut in dif­fer­ent lay­ers, af­ter­wards keep­ing it im­pecroyal ca­bly clean and fresh).

But other hair­styles for women are erotic, too. The ones that pro­vide the big­gest turn-on though, in­vari­ably are nat­u­ral and un­con­trived look­ing whether they con­sist of lush, loose waves, the stick, geo­met­ric locks of Sas­soon, or the Bette Mi­dler campy frizzed, fuzzy per­ma­nent style.

Men’s, hair fash­ion is cur­rently shorter than dur­ing the ‘60s but longer than it had been for many decades be­fore then. And in­stead of be­ing con­trolled with grease or wax, it’s held in place by means of prepa­ra­tions which leave no trace of their pres­ence. Men as well as women are now mak­ing their heads look “touch­able.”

Pam­per­ing hair

Body hair is now al­lowed to grow — and to show — as never be­fore men are of­ten seen with the top bot­tons of sport shirts un­done to ex­pose a hir­sute chest. Al­though some women still shave, or have their legs waxed, many now choose not to re­move the hair from their legs or their un­der­arms.

Care of the hair on the head or the body is of­ten thought to be a pri­vate con­cern, but many lovers share groom­ing rit­u­als. A woman’s brush­ing her hair as her lover looks on is of­ten very arous­ing. He may par­ti­ciSome pate by stroking her hair, or they may groom each other.

The scalp is a sen­si­tive eroge­nous zone, and is highly re­spon­sive to mas­sage. For some in­di­vid­u­als, the gen­tlest han­dling of the hair can be a turnon and vig­or­ous rub­bing may be pleas­ant, with many cou­ples who de­light in play­ful tug­ging and pulling of hair prior to, or dur­ing, love­mak­ing.

Shar­ing a shower is a pre-coital sport many cou­ples en­joy. Shower caps are for­bid­den and not nearly as ex­cit­ing as lath­er­ing, mas­sag­ing and rins­ing each other in turn. Mak­ing love while the hair is clean and wet af­ter a shower or swim is a qui­etly sen­sual ex­pe­ri­ence.

lovers cut or style each other’s hair, not only to save the ex­pense of a pro­fes­sional job, but be­cause they de­rive plea­sures from the whole process. How­ever, the one whose hair is be­ing worked on must have ab­so­lute trust in the part­ner hold­ing the scis­sors.

Trust is vi­tal in an­other groom­ing ac­tiv­ity which many lovers find erotic such as shav­ing or shap­ing the woman’s pu­bic hair. Some men pre­fer the child­like ap­pear­ance of shaved pu­denda, while oth­ers are cu­ri­ous to see how their part­ners look with the pu­bic area bare.

In pri­vate parts

The pre­lim­i­nary cut­ting can be done with scis­sors, af­ter­wards, al­low­ing the lover to lather and do the ac­tual shav­ing. One ad­van­tage to hair­less pubes is that the cli­toris, labia and vagina are more eas­ily ac­ces­si­ble. A dis­ad­van­tage is pos­si­ble rash and itch while the hair grows back.

Trim­ming can also make th­ese del­i­cate ar­eas ac­ces­si­ble, and a cream rinse will ren­der pu­bic hair soft and fluff. A few ex­pen­sive hair sa­lons of­fer “bikini trims” for pu­bic hair and also colour­ing and touch-ups to match head hair.

Hair’s age-old erotic sig­nif­i­cance is be­com­ing in­creas­ingly ap­par­ent ev­ery day. Prime time tele­vi­sion bom­bards view­ers with prom­ises of sex­ual ful­fil­ment through prepa­ra­tions that un­leash the prim­i­tive and mag­i­cal pow­ers of our hair. Be­hind those com­mer­cials is the sug­ges­tion that sex is re­ally a “head trip,” based on face-to-face at­trac­tion, as well as phys­i­cal in­ti­macy.

Hair as the sex sym­bol of the ‘70s in­di­cate a new em­pha­sis on the whole per­son, which pro­vokes progress to­ward in­creased gen­uine close­ness and shar­ing.

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