REVEREND DADA JP VASWANI
This month, answers our Tuestions on destiny, friendship, handling stress more
Why is there such moral decay in the world? To this Tuestion, there can be a variety of answers, which may lead to endless and futile discussions. The fact is that there is moral decay. So let me do the little I can to dispel the dar ness around me. /et me indle, in my own life, a little candle of purity, of simplicity, selfless service. To reform the world, Sadhu aswani said, begin with yourself What is the role of family in inculcating values and how far are they successful in the present nuclear family system? The purpose of education and purpose of life in general is to grow in character and there are two centres where character is built: first is the home, and second is school and college. Therefore, the family plays a large part in inculcating values. ut values are not passed on only through the medium of words therefore the father and mother have to be a picture of values that he or she wishes to pass on to his or her children. How do we combat the negative forces in the environment around us, which constantly discourage us from developing a positive attitude? rayer will help you. rayer is the greatest, but most unused power on earth greater even than atomic power. Go to im with faith. We have ignored God for a long time. I have become very fearful. Fearful of small, unnecessary things. How do I rid myself of this nagging fear? epeat the words, as often as you can: ‘Why must I fear, when God is near ’ If possible a few hundred times every day: ‘Why must I fear, when God is near Why must I fear, when God is near Why must I fear, when God is near ’ nd soon, all fear will vanish as mist before the rising sun. I am told that the human race is an orchestra. Each person can be in their rightful place and play their instrument in perfect TUNE WITH THE REST OF HUMANITY. HOW CAN I fiND MY PLACE AND KNOW WHAT MY SPECIfiC DESTINY IS? You can find your place through the practice of daily silence. very day, preferably at the same time and at the same place, go and sit in silence and try to enter into the depths within. One blessed day, under the grace of Guru and or Guru and God, you will get the answer. How can we develop the spirit of forgiveness? What I call ‘the five fingers of forgiveness’ are actually practical suggestions on how to develop the spirit of forgiveness. When anyone hurts you, immediately offer a prayer to God, ‘O God, help me to forget this hurt so that it does not enter my heart, and become a festering wound.’ very night as you retire, thin of all the people who have wronged you or hurt you, actually call out their names aloud and say, ‘I forgive you.’ If someone has hurt you to a point where you are unable to forget it, unburden yourself to a spiritual elder, or write a letter to the person against whom you hold a grudge. When you forgive, ma e sure that you forget. Spea indly about the person against whom you hold a grudge. How can one walk the way of forgiveness? To wal the way of forgiveness, one has to pass through four stages. The first is the stage of hurt. Someone has wronged me, and I cannot forget it. I feel hurt. We must remember that it is not I who feels hurt, but the ego. Those at this stage naturally hold grudges, not realising that the person who holds grudge in ures himself more than the one against whom the grudge is held. urt leads to hate, which is the second stage. I cannot forget how much I have been hurt and I cannot send out thoughts of goodwill to my enemy. In some cases, I hate the person so much that I want him or her to suffer, as much as I am suffering. Then comes the third stage: of healing, God’s grace descends on me and I begin to see the person who hurt me in a new light. I begin to understand his or her difficulty. My memory is healed and I am free again. The fourth is the stage of coming together. I am an ious to ma e friends with the person who has hurt me. I invite him into my life. I share my love with him and we both move to a new and healed relationship.