4 Times You Need to Be a Tiger Girl­frıend

We know you’re aware that dudes screw up now and again. But new re­search shows that let­ting him off the hook too eas­ily can mess with your love life. So, at what point do you get tough? It all de­pends on the sit­u­a­tion.

Cosmopolitan (India) - - LOVE & LUST - By Korin Miller

If your man makes you happy, it’s tempt­ing to dis­miss his oc­ca­sional mis­takes with a ‘ Hey, it could be worse’ shrug— es­pe­cially now, with the work pres­sure whip­ping ev­ery­one’s butt and de­pres­sion on the rise in men. The last thing we want to do is kick a good guy if he’s down. But that tac­tic can hurt your re­la­tion­ship, ac­cord­ing to a new study from the Univer­sity of Ten­nessee. Re­searchers found that when a wo­man eas­ily for­gave her guy af­ter he messed up, he was six times more likely to make the same slip up again. And a pre­vi­ous study by these re­searchers found that the more you let stuff slide with your part­ner, the less happy you’ll be with him.

“When you for­give a sig­nif­i­cant other too eas­ily, he’ll think there are no con­se­quences for his bad be­hav­iour,” ex­plains psy­chol­o­gist Jef­frey Bern­stein, Ph. D., co- author of Why Can’t You Read My Mind? Plus, al­ways blow­ing things off takes a toll on your self- es­teem. “Con­tinue to ex­cuse a guy for the same be­hav­iour and you’ll end up feel­ing like a pushover,” says Bern­stein.

Of course, you don’t want to be a finger- wag­ging be­y­otch over ev­ery mishap. The ques­tion, then, is where to draw the line. That’s why we brought in the ex­perts to help fig­ure out which sit­u­a­tions call for go­ing easy on him… and when you have to chan­nel the tiger and un­leash your in­ner beast.

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