4 Times You Need to Be a Tiger Girlfrıend
We know you’re aware that dudes screw up now and again. But new research shows that letting him off the hook too easily can mess with your love life. So, at what point do you get tough? It all depends on the situation.
If your man makes you happy, it’s tempting to dismiss his occasional mistakes with a ‘ Hey, it could be worse’ shrug— especially now, with the work pressure whipping everyone’s butt and depression on the rise in men. The last thing we want to do is kick a good guy if he’s down. But that tactic can hurt your relationship, according to a new study from the University of Tennessee. Researchers found that when a woman easily forgave her guy after he messed up, he was six times more likely to make the same slip up again. And a previous study by these researchers found that the more you let stuff slide with your partner, the less happy you’ll be with him.
“When you forgive a significant other too easily, he’ll think there are no consequences for his bad behaviour,” explains psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph. D., co- author of Why Can’t You Read My Mind? Plus, always blowing things off takes a toll on your self- esteem. “Continue to excuse a guy for the same behaviour and you’ll end up feeling like a pushover,” says Bernstein.
Of course, you don’t want to be a finger- wagging beyotch over every mishap. The question, then, is where to draw the line. That’s why we brought in the experts to help figure out which situations call for going easy on him… and when you have to channel the tiger and unleash your inner beast.