To have your ending be a happily- ever- after, set aside time for these key concerns.
First comes love, then comes marriage, then come the squabbles, fights and all that baggage! Hopefully, you’ve got your man’s Monday routines pegged by now, and know him like a second skin. You may have lived together, floored his folks, and slept in his pajamas, but there still may be some answered questions. Says US- based pastor Todd Outcalt in his book Before You Say ‘ I do’, “Great relationships happen when individuals speak and listen to each other. Asking the right questions before you walk down the aisle is the key to exploring a future marriage relationship.” “Because we love each other!” may make an awww moment, but it’s important to address the underlying ‘ why now’ question. Does it feel like the logical next step? Would you like to start a family? Simply want to celebrate your commitment for one another? It’s crucial to weigh your reasons to see if they match, keying in on your expectations of each other after marriage. How do you want your relationship to change/ evolve? What are some partner traits you cherish, and others you could do without? You don’t want unaired dirty laundry to end up in cold feet at the aisle. Are you spenders or savers? How do you plan to pay the big bills, your separate debts and save for retirement? Discuss if you’d like to
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