Cou­ple con­ver­sa­tions

To have your end­ing be a hap­pily- ever- af­ter, set aside time for these key con­cerns.

Cosmopolitan (India) - - COSMO REPORT - Akanksha Chawla

First comes love, then comes mar­riage, then come the squab­bles, fights and all that bag­gage! Hope­fully, you’ve got your man’s Mon­day rou­tines pegged by now, and know him like a sec­ond skin. You may have lived to­gether, floored his folks, and slept in his pa­ja­mas, but there still may be some an­swered ques­tions. Says US- based pas­tor Todd Out­calt in his book Be­fore You Say ‘ I do’, “Great re­la­tion­ships hap­pen when in­di­vid­u­als speak and lis­ten to each other. Ask­ing the right ques­tions be­fore you walk down the aisle is the key to ex­plor­ing a fu­ture mar­riage re­la­tion­ship.” “Be­cause we love each other!” may make an awww mo­ment, but it’s im­por­tant to ad­dress the un­der­ly­ing ‘ why now’ ques­tion. Does it feel like the log­i­cal next step? Would you like to start a fam­ily? Sim­ply want to cel­e­brate your com­mit­ment for one an­other? It’s cru­cial to weigh your rea­sons to see if they match, key­ing in on your ex­pec­ta­tions of each other af­ter mar­riage. How do you want your re­la­tion­ship to change/ evolve? What are some part­ner traits you cher­ish, and oth­ers you could do with­out? You don’t want un­aired dirty laun­dry to end up in cold feet at the aisle. Are you spenders or savers? How do you plan to pay the big bills, your sep­a­rate debts and save for re­tire­ment? Dis­cuss if you’d like to

All that his eyes could see were her, er, neck­lace

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