Come­backs to Con­fi­denceSink­ing Ques­tions

What do you say when some­body asks about the one area of your life that sucks? Amy Alkon, author of I See Rude Peo­ple, ex­plains.

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1. Be di­rect. Ly­ing (“I got a great job of­fer; just wait­ing on de­tails”) can back­fire, so con­sider hit­ting them with the truth (“Ac­tu­ally, I’m hav­ing a tough time with my job search”). “When you tell peo­ple what’s re­ally go­ing on, you trig­ger their sym­pa­thetic re­flex,” says Alkon. Even your bitch- tas­tic fren­emy might do you a favour and pass your ré­sumé on to her un­cle’s re­cruit­ing firm. 2. Fo­cus on them. Don’t want a ran­dom per­son know­ing your biz? De­flect with a Q of your own (“I was about to ask you the same thing!”). Odds are, she wasn’t mean­ing to pry. “A nosey ques­tion of­ten isn’t in­tended to be rude; it’s just meant to cre­ate con­ver­sa­tion,” says Alkon. Once she starts bab­bling, she’ll likely for­get you never gave an an­swer. 3. Laugh it off. Crack­ing a joke shows you re­alise that this isn’t the end of the world. If a co- worker asks about your ( in­vol­un­tary) break- up, tell her it’s okay, you’ve been look­ing for an ex­cuse to lis­ten to Adele’s Some­one Like You on in­fi­nite re­peat.

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