Comebacks to ConfidenceSinking Questions
What do you say when somebody asks about the one area of your life that sucks? Amy Alkon, author of I See Rude People, explains.
1. Be direct. Lying (“I got a great job offer; just waiting on details”) can backfire, so consider hitting them with the truth (“Actually, I’m having a tough time with my job search”). “When you tell people what’s really going on, you trigger their sympathetic reflex,” says Alkon. Even your bitch- tastic frenemy might do you a favour and pass your résumé on to her uncle’s recruiting firm. 2. Focus on them. Don’t want a random person knowing your biz? Deflect with a Q of your own (“I was about to ask you the same thing!”). Odds are, she wasn’t meaning to pry. “A nosey question often isn’t intended to be rude; it’s just meant to create conversation,” says Alkon. Once she starts babbling, she’ll likely forget you never gave an answer. 3. Laugh it off. Cracking a joke shows you realise that this isn’t the end of the world. If a co- worker asks about your ( involuntary) break- up, tell her it’s okay, you’ve been looking for an excuse to listen to Adele’s Someone Like You on infinite repeat.