When Celebrity Gossip is Actually Good for You
A new survey reveals that reading about Bipasha’s breakup or Britney’s meltdown can actually be good for us! Hard to believe, eh? Read on to know more— and use gossip to your benefit.
Here’s one more reason to take an interest in the goings- on of stars’ lives. A recent report revealed that reading about stars— from their relationship break- ups to their health scares— can help us deal with our own well- being and issues. In short, the grapevine can actually improve your life!
For one, gossip makes us happy. According to Dr Charlotte De Backer, an evolutionary psychologist, gossiping releases endorphins in our brain, making us feel good. There’s more: “We tend to mimic the behaviours of those with higher status or who are more successful,” says Dr Backer. “This explains why celebrities act as role models for broad ranges of behaviour they display— good or bad.” Put simply, a star’s action can serve as an example, and seeing how they deal with their issues is
like learning from someone else’s lessons. So with that in mind, Cosmo put together a list of famous happenings— and how they can benefit you...
In 2009, model, actor, and activist Lisa Ray revealed that she was suffering from Multiple Myeloma, an incurable cancer of the white blood cells. But instead of giving in to the devastating news, Lisa chose to remain optimistic. On her blog, the Yellow Diaries, Lisa wrote, “I believe it can be cured. That’s the dirty realist in me.” Lisa began raising funds and awareness to find a cure, and even attended the Toronto International Film Festival during her chemo sessions so she could reach out to people about her illness and “make multiple myeloma sexy.” Through it all, Lisa blogged about her illness, in a positive and humorous way, treating her problem more like one that had to be tackled, than one that was crippling. Ten months later, she announced that she was cancer- free, news that relieved fans, and made her a postergirl for cancer survival.
Other celebs who share the same courageous attitude are Christina Applegate, Sheryl Crow, and Kylie Minogue, all of whom successfully fought breast cancer. Their openness about the disease sent out a powerful message to women everywhere— that an illness was nothing to be ashamed of... and that there is always hope.
Dealing with the Exes
When a celeb couple says sayonara, two things can happen. Some will share every up and down of their emotional roller coaster ( hello, John Mayer); others will take a more dignified route. Case in point: John Abraham and Bipasha Basu. When the long- term couple broke up, everyone wanted to know the dirt. Did he cheat on her? Was she too controlling? But the couple ensured the only people involved in their split were themselves. Fact is, and experts agree, when a relationship is over, it is best to adopt a non- disclosure policy. Posting on Facebook what an a* hole he is, or telling friends he once went to sleep during sex will only lead to similar accusations from his side... and make the process of moving on even tougher.
Telling It Like It is
When Rihanna was physically abused by then boyfriend Chris Brown in 2009, she came out to condemn his actions. Soon after, calls to domestic violence hotlines increased significantly. “Having celebrity issues in the news helps break down a lot of the stereotypes around relationship violence victims and perpetrators,” says Jane Ashton, Women’s Domestic Violence Crisis Service, Australia. When Rihanna left Chris, it inspired other women with abusive partners to do the same. Nadia, 25, a store manager, had been in a violent relationship with her partner for a year. “As an outsider to Rihanna’s situation, I could see it was wrong. It made me realise I was making excuses in my own relationship,” she says. Soon after, she left her partner.
Ignoring the Negativity
feelings are multiplied manifold. Being famous means that anyone can attack you— from bonafide critics in newspapers or on television, to Tweeters and just general haters. But sensible stars know that you can't please all the people all the time. And there’s an important lesson to learn here— when faced with criticism, divide it into two camps: constructive and destructive. Use the former to improve yourself, and tell the latter (' You're fat', ‘ You're badly dressed', etc), to basically FO. “It’s important to focus on impact, not approval,” says Tim Ferris, author of The Four Hour Work Week. “Do what you believe is right and expect resistance and expect attackers. Keep calm and carry on!” You know how terrible you feel when your boss finds fault with your report or says you need to try harder? Well if you’re a celebrity, those
Looking Your Best
If there’s one thing nearly all A- listers do well, it’s looking after themselves. Sure, it’s their job to look good, but if that’s a priority for you, too, you need to commit to it. Make an effort to exercise daily, eat healthy, figure out what silhouettes work best for your body, get a haircut that makes you feel foxy, or take a short make- up course to perfect the art of creating smokey eyes and killer cheekbones. That said, looking your best doesn’t mean you have to live up to somebody else’s standards of beauty— it’s also about accepting and liking what you have. Beyonce shows off her curvy behind, Shakira sings about her modest- sized breasts, and Lily Allen and Tilda Swinton are proud of their third nipple. ( More stable) celebs don’t let themselves go, but also accept their ‘ flaws’, because they know that in the end, that’s what makes them unique.
Bips and John called it quits minus the trash talk
A battered Rihanna Rihanna’s incident with then boyfriend Chris Brown revealed the ugly side of abuse in a relationship