3 WHAT WERE THE LAST PLANS THAT YOU TOTALLY DITCHED?
Canceling on something you could’ve attended can be revealing. “Sometimes we like the idea of doing things, so we don’t admit that we actually find them draining,” Borchard says. Trends in what you’re skipping show what makes you anxious or just plain bored. “Once you know your stress triggers, you can tailor your plans accordingly,” Meyers says. So if you keep bailing on shopping trips with all your pals and happy hour with co-workers, then group gettogethers probably aren’t your thing. Meet up with one or two friends instead of five together. You’ll still log in bonding time, but it’ll be in a way that’s more enjoyable.
Always tempted to cancel on a specific person? The ‘real you’ thinks you’d be better off without them.