TOUCHES That Lock DOWN HIS LOVE

Talk is cheap. Use these moves and he’ll fall even harder for you.

Cosmopolitan (India) - - LOVE & LUST - By Mina Azodi

Ac­cord­ing to the lat­est sci­en­tific re­search, one of the keys to a su­per happy re­la­tion­ship is giv­ing not just good talk...but good touch. A re­cent study re­vealed that touch can ex­press spe­cific feel­ings (such as love), and new re­search from Swe­den dis­cov­ered that a phys­i­cal ca­ress ac­ti­vates the brain’s Ae­mo­tional area of the per­son be­ing stroked. “Han­dling your boyfriend in strate­gic ways will make him feel closer to you,” ex­plains Paul Do­bran­sky, au­thor of The Se­cret Psy­chol­ogy of How We Fall In Love. Read on for more sneaky moves. His ears are packed with a tonne of sen­si­tive nerve end­ings that con­nect di­rectly to his brain. “And when you stim­u­late them, it tells his mind to dial down,” says Washington-based David Givens, PH.D., di­rec­tor of the Cen­ter for Non-ver­bal Stud­ies. In fact, this tech­nique is so ef­fec­tive, it’s of­ten used by mas­sage ther­a­pists to re­lax their clients. When you do it on your guy, try ex­per­i­ment­ing with dif­fer­ent pres­sures to see what he’s most re­spon­sive to, and use leisurely strokes.

The same Swedish study found that the most ef­fec­tive ca­resses were ac­tu­ally slow, not fast. If you re­ally want to make an im­pact, work this spot while you whis­per some­thing sooth­ing yet ro­man­tic in his ear (‘I’m so lucky to be with you’). When you do this, your breath cre­ates an­other form of touch in this al­ready height­ened area, since the sound waves gen­er­ate lit­tle vi­bra­tions that cause the tiny hair on his ear to stand on end—in a good way. “This makes the ear­lobe stroke even more pow­er­ful, since you’re re­in­forc­ing it with an­other in­ti­mate move,” ex­plains Givens. It’s a move known as a half gesture, since it prompts him to com­plete the ac­tion (that is, put his hand in yours). And it’s par­tic­u­larly ef­fec­tive in a sit­u­a­tion like this, when you want him to know that you’re

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