Boost the Build-up
One way to get your guy pumped to jump you is literally to deny him sex for a period of time. Berger explains why this works: “If you continue to indulge in the same pleasure repeatedly, your amygdala becomes desensitised to it—a process called habituation—so not having something makes it sweeter when you do.”
Try holding out on sex for one week but letting him know on Monday that you plan on blowing his mind on Saturday, suggests Kimberly Flemke, PH.D., a therapist at the Institute for Sex Therapy, US.
Then do little things during the week to get him excited, like texting him a pic of you in your undies or leaving a bag at his place with your bra peeking out. Another option: find a few new sex moves and tell your guy you can’t wait to try them on your upcoming one-year anniversary. He already loves doing it with you, so that added ‘What’s it gonna be?’ mystery will take his build-up—to new heights!