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From random little issues to major life dramas, we’ve got your back.
Q. What’s the proper etiquette when it comes to paying on dates? Some say the girl should pay after the third date. My friends think you should take turns. What do you think?
A. Well, we’re a little old-fashioned. We feel a man should treat up until you’ve determined that you’re a certified couple or at least until he’s finished ‘courting’ you. On the one hand, most guys like to spoil a girl. It makes them feel allpowerful and manly. On the other hand, they’re forever on the lookout for potential gold diggers (just ask Kanye West). And of course, gender rules have changed so much these days that neither party really knows what’s appropriate or what the hell is going to offend the other. So where does that leave you? By the third date, a girl should at least offer to pay so it doesn’t seem like she’s just looking for a free ride. That can mean anything from picking up the dinner tab to offering to get the movie tickets and popcorn later. You’ll come across as an independent girl who can look out for herself, and he can feel like an even more generous guy when he turns you down and foots the entire bill for the night. But don’t push too hard. If he graciously says, “No, I’ve got this,” leave it alone or you will risk bruising his ego.
Q. My guy and I have been onagain, off-again for years now and are currently ‘off’. Whenever he comes back to me, he tells me what a mistake it was to break-up. How long can this go on?
A. We hate to say it, but if you don’t put your foot down, his back-and-forth will be the only thing that’s going to last forever. Clearly, this dude just can’t make up his mind. Maybe he’s not yet convinced you’re the right girl for him, maybe he has commitment issues, or maybe he just likes the drama of breaking up and then making up over and over. Whatever the reason, he knows you’ll always be there when he comes calling, so he doesn’t really have anything to lose by dumping you again. Do you really want to wait around like a loyal puppy until he figures out what he wants? He’ll never respect you if you do, and you’ll continue to be trapped in this holding pattern. You need to settle things once and for all. Next time he tries to get back with you, explain that your patience is wearing thin. Tell him this is his last chance; if he breaks it off one more time, he’s history. Hopefully, it will force him to think twice before throwing away a good thing again.
Q. My guy hates making out with me when I am wearing lip gloss, but I love the shiny look? Any advice?
A. Go for a lip stain. They contain fewer polymers that cause stickiness but still have a glistening effect, says make-up artist Jillian Dempsey. Or choose a gloss he won’t mind licking!
Q. I know prints are hot right now, but everyone’s wearing them. How can I do things differently?
A. By stocking up on quirky, one-of-akind patterns, says the Cosmo fashion team. Look for interesting shapes (fruits are having a major moment), objects (clocks, trains, whatever!), or any other pattern that defines you, to stand out.
Q Our office appraisals just happened, and everybody got a promotion except me! Should I quit and move on?
A. It’s possible that what you’re doing is not considered valuable by your employer, so consider stepping up and asking for more responsibility or crucial projects that will get you noticed. Also, have a chat with your boss and ask how you can ensure a promotion next year. If her response seems lukewarm, it may be time to start hunting.
Kangna Ranaut works a cute apple print