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From random little issues to major life dramas, we’ve got your back.
Q.How do I let a new guy who I’m seeing know up front that I am looking for a relationship without totally freaking him out?
A. Well, if you say, ‘I’m looking for something serious’ on the first (or even second) date, you’ll probably never set eyes on him again, because even men who are searching for a committed relationship will think you’re clingy. The solution isn’t about saying the right thing; it’s about how you behave. For starters, if you usually sleep with men after just one or two dates, stop. It may not be fair, but some guys will rule out the possibility of a long-term relationship with a woman, who hops in bed with them shortly after they first meet. And if you’re finding your dates mostly at bars or clubs, you may want to try other strategies. Ask your closest friends to set you up, or scope out the dude selection at a co-worker’s birthday party.
Q. I’ve been on several interviews, and I haven’t landed a job yet. Can you tell me what’s wrong with my résumé? A.
Since you’ve gone on several interviews, your résumé isn’t the problem, it’s your interviewing skills. Interviews are nothing more than meet and greet sessions to ask questions and discuss a possible merger between the two parties. Your résumé served as the ‘introducer’ that got you a toehold. Since you’ve been invited through many offices and you haven’t succeeded, the focus now shifts to what is happening while you’re in the room. A number of variables can cause an interview to go awry: how you look, attitude, and your answers. If you want to know exactly what the problem is, ask a friend or family member who can be honest with you. People who aren’t afraid to speak what’s on the top of their minds are the best ones to contact when you need direct answers. The interviewer wouldn’t have brought you into an interview unless you had enough qualifications for the position. It’s likely that something crucial wasn’t said during the meeting to sway the interviewer in your direction. So evaluate where and how you went wrong.
Q. I’ve read a lot about neon being a top trend, but how can I work it without being ‘blinding’? A.
If you’re nervous about neon, it’s best to start small—look for a bold bag or stilettos to pair with a basic outfit. Once you feel more confident, graduate to electric outfits, and remember this easy rule—neutrals work best with neon. So team a striking orange top with a black skirt, or a vivid green dress with nude pumps (like Freida Pinto did).
Q. How do you conceal a big, red pimple? A.
The first step to camouflaging a complexion pest is to use a concealer that exactly matches your skin tone, says Sonia Kashuk, make-up artist to celebs like Ashley Judd and Salma Hayek. “If you use a concealer that’s too pale, you’ll end up highlighting the problem instead of hiding it,” says Kashuk. Her blemishmasking technique: using your fingertip, repeatedly dab a cream concealer just on top of the pimple. Try the patting action—versus rubbing or brushing. It layers the cover-up exactly where needed and enables it to adhere better. Next, sweep a translucent loose powder over the area for long-wearing results. When applying foundation to the rest of your face, avoid the already-tended trouble spot or you’ll just rub off the concealer.
Q. Embarrassing but true: I just can’t stop biting my nails! A.
We asked around and came up with these tricks that worked for other Cosmo girls: whenever you feel like biting your nails, pop some chewing gum instead to distract yourself; get an expensive manicure that you wouldn’t want to ruin; invest in artificial nails that can’t be bitten off; try bitter nail-inhibitor polish; or find a celeb ‘nail icon’ and look at her picture each time you feel the urge to chew.
Freida Pinto works neon in her favour with nude pumps