“I’VE TRIED SAY­ING IT BUT NOTH­ING’S CHANGED”

Cosmopolitan (India) - - LOVE & LUST -

Not all those who dare win. Sadly. When we’ve found the courage to say what we want, then had to say it again with lit­tle or no re­sult, it’s ei­ther time to give up, get out, or start say­ing some­thing dif­fer­ent. If the re­la­tion­ship is new, his ‘not hear­ing’ could be a big red warn­ing flag; he’s out for him­self and won’t put him­self out for you—or maybe you haven’t learnt to speak each other’s lan­guage yet. Next time, tell him in very sim­ple terms. If he still doesn’t lis­ten, you might have to con­sider your op­tions. If he won’t give a lit­tle in bed, what are the chances of him mak­ing room for your needs in the rest of the re­la­tion­ship?

If you have a long-term part­ner and have re­cently found your voice only to find he’s not lis­ten­ing any­way, don’t give up. Tread care­fully around his frag­ile ego and use pos­i­tive, up­beat lan­guage. If you’ve tried all that and he still doesn’t seem to care, you know he’s a self­ish tosspot who doesn’t de­serve you—what you do about this is up to you.

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