Ask Cosmo Anything If you meet a cute guy at a party, what’s the best way to initiate exchanging phone numbers?
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Let him initiate it—it makes him feel manly to be the one picking you up. But make it easy for him by giving a few hints that you’d willingly offer up your digits. For instance, if he talks up a movie that he’s seen but you haven’t, you can say something like, ‘Okay, I’ll check it out...but if it’s bad, you owe me’. Or if you’re chatting about, say, bowling, tell him, ‘I love to bowl, but none of my friends ever want to go’. See, men fear rejection as much as you do, so before they request your number, they look for signs that you won’t shut them down. By being a little flirty, you’re giving him the assurance he needs.
Q. If I use protective sunscreen, I have a massive breakout! Please help me find a solution. A.
It sucks when you’re being good to your face—aka using protective sunscreen—and you end up with a massive breakout. To avoid those ‘WTF’ moments, get a lotion that’s right for your face. If you have acne-prone skin, choose an oil-free or water-based lotion. But if your skin is dry, go for a moisturising sunscreen that isn’t gel or alcohol-based.
Q. I’ve joined a new firm and have discovered that my boss has a few favourites. How do I make her like me more? A.
A lot of bosses have fave employees who they trust more than others and as long as that doesn’t equal preferential treatment like more money or perks, it’s normal. To get on your boss’ good side, study her favourites. Are they fabulous at what they do? Do they share a common growth vision with your boss? If you discover that your manager’s preferred employees have similar traits, incorporate some in your own working style. Next, impress your boss: schedule a meeting to find out how she likes to run things. “That way, you’ll be better able to cater to her needs,” says Allison Hemming, author of Work It! While you’re at it, make an effort to mirror her habits. If your new boss spends her lunch hour prepping for team meetings, do the same. “You’ll be seen as someone who ‘gets it’,” explains Hemming.
Q. I’m 5 feet 11. Is it better for me to stick to flats when I’m heading out to meet guys? A.
We asked Cosmo US’ guy guru, Ky Henderson, to answer your question. Here’s what he has to say: “I know exactly how you feel. I used to avoid taking off my shirt at the beach because I was afraid women would be intimidated by my rock-hard abs, but then I realised I wouldn’t want to be with someone who couldn’t handle my six-pack. Okay— that’s total BS, but I still think you should adopt that attitude when it comes to your height. If a guy can’t deal with the fact that you’re tall, he’s not the guy for you. I recommend either zeroing in on men who are at least a few inches taller than you, or waiting for guys who aren’t afraid to be with a woman who can reach things on shelves that they can’t. Also, most guys pay more attention to a woman’s confidence than they do to her height, so wear what you feel hottest in.
Q. I heard Jennifer Lopez drinks ice-cold water to speed up her metabolism. Does that work? A.
According to US-based health expert Jennifer Wider, M.D., hydration is important: if your body doesn’t have enough water, your metabolism will slow down in order to conserve energy. What about the ice-cold part? The thought is that ice water causes a slight rise in your metabolism because your body burns extra calories to process it. Dr Wider also points out, though, that it’s not a quick fix, and won’t burn a tonne of extra calories—you’d have to drink a ridiculous amount of water to do that (which isn’t healthy or possible).
J.Lo looks hot...and cold water may have something to do with it