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Truthfully, it could mean a tonne of things—he and his parents don’t get along or he’s embarrassed by them. Yes, maybe it’s also because he’s not positive of where your relationship is headed, but if that’s the case, this wouldn’t be your only clue. Instead of freaking yourself out over hypotheticals, just let him know that you’d love to meet them. If he’s not ready, drop the subject and accept it. But in another six months if you’re still dating and he’s keeping you from his family, then it’s time to ask him where he sees the relationship heading.
Q. My friend just got fired! How can she get back from this career crisis? A.
Getting fired can be a very traumatic experience and might lead to depression and low motivation. It is important for your friend to remain focussed on her self-worth and reconsider her priorities. She should try to analyse the reasons for her termination and work on the areas of concern. You could also help her consult a career counsellor to look at different job options that would suit her best.
Q. Initially, sex was important to both my boyfriend and me, but now we hardly have any. He says I’m not ‘normal’ and that three or four times a week is a lot—how much is too much? A.
Sex drives are different. For some, ‘normal’ is once a month and for others, it’s twice a day! But in a relationship, you need to understand both of your wants and needs. Communication is key to desire. If he’s being made to feel like he’s not ‘man enough’ his ego’s deflated and it’s not surprising he’s off sex. Pressure won’t help. Maybe, he likes to do the chasing or prefers quality to quantity. Step back and give him room to come on to you!
Q. Is blow-drying with your head flipped upside down really better? A.
“If you’re struggling with limp hair, and seeking va-va- volume, then definitely”, says David Kastin, senior stylist at New York-based Cutler salon. “Whenever you move your hair against its natural growth direction and point hot air toward the roots, your strands will start to perk up.” And though the old upside-down flip isn’t the only way to go (brushing your hair over your head from side to side or from back to front while blow-drying works, too), it’s probably the easiest, especially if you have long hair—head rush aside. For best results, tousle your roots with your free hand while drying them. Before you blow-dry, apply a volumiser to your roots, then comb it through to your ends. If you’ve got curly hair and want extra volume, the upside-down blow-dry is completely safe (it won’t turn your head into a giant mushroom cloud) as long as you take a few precautions. Prep your curls with a ringlet-enhancing styler and place a diffuser attachment on the dryer.
Q. How do I look hot at the gym? A.
Begin with your hair—a pulled-back style is both convenient and sexy (it shows off your cheekbones), plus the options are endles—try a high pony, cute french braids and fishtails, or a messy, bed-head bun. Keep make-up to the minimum to avoid streaks—waterproof mascara, lip gloss, and some cream blush should do the trick. Next, work on your outfit—ID your sexiest body bit, and plan your workout gear around that. So, if you have a taut tummy, wear a sports bra with your trackies (very 2012). Hot legs? Show them off in short shorts. Draw attention to a sexy cleavage with a scoop-neck top, or keep focus on your arms with help from high-cut vests.