At Cosmo, we get tonnes of questions about anal sex, and it’s usually got to do with how painful it is. Unlike the vagina, the anus is not super-elastic or selflubricating. So, to enjoy anal sex, you need to take it slow and use plenty of waterbased lubricants. Since your butt is not used to having objects inserted into it, the muscles that encircle the anal opening will automatically clench when you try to penetrate it. So, you have to learn to relax them. Have your man get you warmed up with foreplay, then delicately massage the outer rim of the opening. When you’re ready, have him slip his finger in, only as far as is comfortable, before graduating to the next level.