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From random little issues to major life dramas, we’ve got your back.
Q. My boyfriend and his ex still talk a lot. I trust him, but why does he want to talk to her when he has me? A.
know that he isn’t going to get you there. Luckily, there’s one thing that will almost always distract a man—and that’s his orgasm! So if he’s been giving you oral for longer than is comfortable, grab his hair, pull him up, and tell him you want him inside you. If he’s already inside you but not giving up, just ask him to come—he will honour your request. Lastly, if he’s taking long because he doesn’t have the right moves, try some subtle coaching. Tell him you just read about a technique in Cosmo that you’re dying to try. Then, if you like it, moan a little louder than usual so he knows.
Assuming “a lot” means once a week or something along those lines, my bet is that you have nothing to worry about. He talks to her for the same reason he talks to his friends, co-workers, family, and the guy who cuts his hair or fixes his computer: he knows them, enjoys their company and they’re part of his history. The simple fact is, no matter how great you are, it’s only healthy that he has people in his life that he can chat with. True, he hasn’t slept with any of these people (probably!) but your BF is clearly being open about it, which means that he thinks the two of you have a relationship solid enough to make his staying friends with an ex no big deal!
Q. My BFF is constantly imitating me. She shops with me and lands up buying the same stuff, all the time! I don’t want to be rude or upset her but I want her to stop. What can I do? A.
Help her get out from under your shadow. She obviously idolises you and either wants to be you or someone like you. You need to understand this from her perspective; she is obviously insecure in her own shoes (quite, literally!) and might need a little encouragement. Take her out, just the two of you and talk to her. Ask her about her likes and dislikes. Appreciate her thoughts and help her come up with her own taste. Take her shopping but this time, get her to try and pick things that she likes or would want to wear. Be there for her and guide her but ensure she starts gradually making her own style choices!
Q. I love the way Selena Gomez worked the baroque trend, but every time I’ve tried it, I end up looking like my grandmom’s couch. Guidance, please! A.
Baroque is super hot right now but it’s a tricky trend to nail. To ease yourself into wearing this right, keep it subtle and simple. So rather than a baroque print dress, start with a little baroque detailing on your leggings, shoes or bag. Try and stick to one dominating element of baroque within your look, and keep the rest minimal. This won’t be as overwhelming and will help you baby-step your way into going all-out baroque.