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From random little issues to major life dramas, we’ve got your back. Q. I’m the youngest in my family and my parents still baby me. My brother says they don’t want to let me go as it makes them feel old. I’m nearly 23, and left home a year ago. What do I
A. Your brother made a good point. They may feel their very purpose ending, along with parental control over you. You need two key ingredients to help you out here: patience and communication. So sometimes, bite your tongue and smile. Keep some facts that your parents are not yet ready to accept as yet, to yourself. But do talk and share your life with them as well, as much as you can. Tell them about how you feel when they second-guess your decisions. And also tell them how you appreciate their love and concern. In time they will realise that their baby is all grown up.
Q. I ended things with my boyfriend of five years and explained that I’d fallen out of love with him. It’s been six months and he still calls asking me why we’re not together. How can I make him stop badgering me all the time?
A. This is a time when the written word works best. Write him an e-mail or even a hand-written letter, and explain everything. Tell him that you don’t love him anymore and also explain why— make it clear that you do not want to be with him. Literally spell it out. Sometimes reiterating your reasons will help drive the truth home. Also, tell him you need time and space alone to discover who you are. And make it clear that he needs to move on and stop calling you repeatedly as that makes you uncomfortable. Make no promise of friendship or anything else, just thank him and wish him well.
Q. My guy wants me to give him oral while he’s driving. It seems dangerous. What else can I do for him? A. It is dangerous and illegal, for that matter, and that’s the reason the idea is
so hot to him. See, many men find risk erotic. And while some risks are totally worth it, this isn’t one of those times. Try giving him a similar thrill with a move that feels naughty but is a lot safer. Stick with the car scenario. As he’s turning into the driveway, start feeling his crotch. Once he pulls into the garage, close the door and get it on.
Q. Help! I have a cowlick on my hairline. How can I tame it and get it to behave?
A. It’s easy to tame that unruly tuft of hair, says Edward Tricomi, who co-owns NYC’s Warren-Tricomi Salon and has done the ’dos of celebs such as Hilary Swank. One option is to aim the blow dryer at the root area while using a brush to coax your loco lock into an attractive position (keep holding it down until it cools). Or try subduing disorderly strands with a small straightening iron. Once your cowlick is under control, keep it in place with an extra-hold hair spray. For a more permanent solution though, have your stylist chemically relax the root of your cowlick. This treatment is available in most beauty salons.
Q. My work makes me hop from one country to the next. At every airport terminal I feel like the dowdiest woman there. How do you stay comfy and stylish on 10-hour flights?
A. First off, comfort and fashion are not always antagonists. Learn from your fave celebrities—they look glam even after that 10-hour flight! Here are the basics you need: a very chic jacket (oversized fits are in so yaay for comfort), a trendy tote, booties or ballet flats work on a long flight (and keep your feet warm too), and oversized sun glasses. Keep your make-up minimal, and remain hydrated throughout.
Vanessa Hudgens gets her airport style right