Face- Off

Cosmopolitan (India) - - LOVE & LUST -

“When you text, you ac­ti­vate the log­i­cal part of your brain, but when you speak, you use the emo­tional one.”

The com­mu­ni­ca­tion hand­i­cap that comes with tex­ting is even big­ger than you might imag­ine. “You’re get­ting three times less in­for­ma­tion tex­ting than in a face-to-face con­ver­sa­tion,” says clin­i­cal psy­chol­o­gist Xavier Amador, Ph.D., au­thor of I’m Right, You’re Wrong, Now What? “You can’t see fa­cial ex­pres­sions, hear tone of voice, or watch body lan­guage.” As a re­sult, com­mu­ni­cat­ing can get really messy and mean. Af­ter all, it’s a lot eas­ier to go be­low the belt when you don’t have to wit­ness your BF’s gut­ted re­sponse. “When you’re in the same room, you can see him phys­i­cally brac­ing for what­ever you’re go­ing to say, and that clues you in that you’re about to go too far,” says Ma­jor. “But you don’t have that kind of built-in safe­guard with your smart­phone.” And af­ter you go there, even a well­timed “Damn you, au­to­cor­rect!” won’t make him for­get.

If you’ve ex­changed a few heated lines, delete the con­ver­sa­tion... it’ll make it eas­ier to move on.

...and led to a lit­eral heart


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