Ways to Be a Mentee
A mentor can be an invaluable resource in your career. Follow these rules to make sure you make the most of your relationship.
should I do’ about a situation, ask what she would have done,” says Nina Ries, principal of Ries Law Group, California. That way, she’s sharing her experiences, rather than feeling the pressure to make your decision for you. She’ll also respect that you’re simply looking for insight to help you make an informed decision.
Keep Her In The Loop
Did she help you navigate a tricky work situation? Send her an e-mail, and let her know how it turned out. And if you opted not to take her advice? “Tell her that even though you decided to do X, talking about Y was illuminating,” suggests Jenni Luke, CEO of US-based Step Up Women’s Network. You’ll avoid hurting her feelings, and she’ll get to know your decision-making process better.
Your mentor might introduce you to people who could lead to a full-time position somewhere, but don’t expect her to. And definitely never straight up ask her to hire you. Her role is to guide you and offer advice, not to find you a job. “Your mentor isn’t your personal headhunter,” says Ries. “You don’t want her to feel like she was being used for her connections rather than for her knowledge.” Don’t worry; if she hears of a position you’d be a good fit for, she’ll let you know.