I can’t deal with some­one want­ing to take a re­la­tion­ship back­ward or need­ing space... it’s a com­mon sense thing.

Cosmopolitan (India) - - COSMO INTERVIEW -

and right.” That’s been my whole phi­los­o­phy on love this whole time any­way.”

What about the play­ing­hard-to-get game?

“I think a lot of times when you meet some­one you feel like you need to ap­pear un­in­ter­ested in them so that they’ll be more in­ter­ested in you. But what hap­pens when you start show­ing him that you ac­tu­ally like him? What’s he gonna do then? Play the tape for­ward; how do you keep a guy like that? I don’t want to sign up for that.”

Are there other moves you won’t tol­er­ate?

“I can’t deal with some­one want­ing to take a re­la­tion­ship back­ward or need­ing space or cheat­ing on you. It’s a con­scious thing; it’s a com­mon-sense thing. If I was in that sit­u­a­tion, if I were them, would I be do­ing this to me? Would I ever do this to them? If the an­swer is no, then they’re not treat­ing me fairly. I just don’t ever want to end up in a re­la­tion­ship that isn’t fair ever again.”

Which song makes you feel most pow­er­ful, singing?

“White Horse is a song that I’ve al­ways been proud of be­cause it’s about that really hor­ri­ble feel­ing of a one-sided re­la­tion­ship that isn’t balanced; it’s one-sided. You clearly love him more than he loves you, and you know it. And it’s a sink­ing feel­ing, but it’s also a really in­tox­i­cat­ing feel­ing. In my mind, what hurts the most is what they [the guy] didn’t say. They knew I needed com­mit­ment or loy­alty or re­as­sur­ance, and they wouldn’t give it.”

in­se­cu­rity?

How do you deal with

“There are times when I’m caught up in ev­ery­thing and I have to say to my­self, “Please feel good; ev­ery­thing’s okay; you’re fine; things aren’t fall­ing apart; get back to a place where you re­alise that you don’t ac­tu­ally have real prob­lems. That hap­pens. But lately, I haven’t had to give my­self that pep talk. I love my friends, my fam­ily, my life. For me, con­fi­dence is some­thing that can come crash­ing down in one sec­ond. But right now—I don’t want to jinx it—I’m really happy.”

What have you learned about your­self through the ups and downs of dat­ing?

“I’ve learned when to get out. I’ve never wasted too much time with the wrong per­son, and that’s one thing I’m proud of. The longer you’re

Top, Red Valentino; jeans, J Brand; bracelet (on top), Frag­ments; bracelet (be­low), Chan Luu

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