I can’t deal with someone wanting to take a relationship backward or needing space... it’s a common sense thing.
and right.” That’s been my whole philosophy on love this whole time anyway.”
What about the playinghard-to-get game?
“I think a lot of times when you meet someone you feel like you need to appear uninterested in them so that they’ll be more interested in you. But what happens when you start showing him that you actually like him? What’s he gonna do then? Play the tape forward; how do you keep a guy like that? I don’t want to sign up for that.”
Are there other moves you won’t tolerate?
“I can’t deal with someone wanting to take a relationship backward or needing space or cheating on you. It’s a conscious thing; it’s a common-sense thing. If I was in that situation, if I were them, would I be doing this to me? Would I ever do this to them? If the answer is no, then they’re not treating me fairly. I just don’t ever want to end up in a relationship that isn’t fair ever again.”
Which song makes you feel most powerful, singing?
“White Horse is a song that I’ve always been proud of because it’s about that really horrible feeling of a one-sided relationship that isn’t balanced; it’s one-sided. You clearly love him more than he loves you, and you know it. And it’s a sinking feeling, but it’s also a really intoxicating feeling. In my mind, what hurts the most is what they [the guy] didn’t say. They knew I needed commitment or loyalty or reassurance, and they wouldn’t give it.”
How do you deal with
“There are times when I’m caught up in everything and I have to say to myself, “Please feel good; everything’s okay; you’re fine; things aren’t falling apart; get back to a place where you realise that you don’t actually have real problems. That happens. But lately, I haven’t had to give myself that pep talk. I love my friends, my family, my life. For me, confidence is something that can come crashing down in one second. But right now—I don’t want to jinx it—I’m really happy.”
What have you learned about yourself through the ups and downs of dating?
“I’ve learned when to get out. I’ve never wasted too much time with the wrong person, and that’s one thing I’m proud of. The longer you’re
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