Why Men Do It
offences, and need serious attention.
A Cosmo web poll found that 77 percent of respondents have been groped by a stranger at least once, with an astounding 39 percent victimized on four or more separate occasions— on airplanes and trains, at parties, nightclubs, and public parks, and even on the street.
Cases of eve teasing are even more common—men get away with passing lewd remarks, and making women feel unsafe, and uncomfortable on a regular basis. Headlines Today reporter, Anjana Kashyap, went through a similar experience, while reporting from Delhi in December, last year. The camera was rolling when Anjana was hackled by three men in a car who stopped to pass comments. The men’s faces, and car number plate were recorded, as the cameraman intervened. This provided definite proof to the government and police about the constant harrassment women face in public and on busy roads.
Women often have a tendency to shrug off eve teasing, and groping. After all, an incident lasts only a few seconds. But it is a form of sexual assault, one that can have lasting repercussions for victims. Here, experts explain what motivates a man to put his hands on you without permission— and the right way to fight back.
A hand on your ass; a squeeze of your breast; a man brushing or pressing his body against yours— anytime you’re touched in an unwanted sexual way, that’s groping, says Patricia J. Aletky, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and forensic consultant in Minneapolis who specializes in sex-related cases.
“Gropers are often men with low self-esteem who crave power and control over females,” explains Brent E. Turvey, a criminal profiler in Sitka, Alaska, and co-author of Rape Investigation Handbook. “Grabbing or rubbing against a woman proves to a groper that he’s capable of putting her in a submissive position.” In other words, he gets a high out of humiliating you...and knowing he’ll likely get away with it.
To complicate matters, gropers aren’t all sketchy-looking guys. Many are successful, well-groomed professionals. Or they’re seemingly regular guys who fit right into any nightspot frequented by hip young adults— as Mahima*, 29, found out last year, when she was at a crowded bar in Bangalore. “My girlfriends and
(Left) Young women at a silent protest for the December gangrape in Delhi. ( Top and bottom right) TV reporter, Anjana Kashyap, being eve- teased while reporting live